I’m having severe anxiety about my job search. I verbally accepted a job offer. Hours later I got a call from another job I was more interested in with better pay, double vacation time, and double 401k match. They know I accepted something else and were motivated to move quickly. I’m freaking out about potentially backing out of my accepted offer assuming all goes well with this other company.....

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Tell your preferred company that you’ll accept the offer if they guarantee that it will be still yours tomorrow. Once this is for certain talk to the other company ASAP and tell them that you appreciate the offer but you’ve thought about it and there is another position that you are more interested in, so before going into any formal contract kindly decline the offer. I’ve done this, received the contract from one firm but I stalled them until I hear back from the other job and explained them the situation and didn’t sign the contract. Don’t expect to go back to the job you decline but it happens, move on with the one that would make you happier. And congrats!

That’s giving you severe anxiety? Having too many job opportunities to choose from?? No disrespect, but a lot of people here have been out of work 6+ months. At that point they’ve exhausted all unemployment benefits and there is no further social safety net. They also have a scarlet letter “gap” on their resume to contend with now. I think the right answer here might be to start a gratitude journal.

Anxiety is stupid and cruel like that. It doesn’t listen to what’s reasonable and it doesn’t care about privilege or fortune. No matter how fortunate we may be, we can’t really “talk ourselves out of it”. This is a space to get support when anxiety and depression impact all areas of our lives - and one of the biggest myths about anxiety is that being thankful that we don’t have it worse can somehow make it go away. If it was as easy as that, it wouldn’t be a thing. I’d hate to think that someone would decide not to seek support here because of comments like this.

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