I’m in a team meeting today and an SM (not in my practice) asks for a deliverable. I tell him I’ll think deeply about it on Sunday because I’m swamped. “Can I see it tomorrow?”

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What do you mean by “think deeply about it”? This is a weird statement. And he asks for a deliverable for what purpose? To review?

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So he then sent an email asking to see your deliverable, and you responded that you would “think deeply about it”, copying in the partner and not your M/SM? This is.....weird.

I understand why you’re annoyed that this guy is inserting himself into your business, but instead of shooting out insane sounding emails, why not talk to your M or SM and see what the underlying reason is that he’s asking to see the document?

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First — you aren’t in my practice. Second — my partner already told you not to review my deliverables because it’s not your practice area. Third — you did this in a group, where I was forced to say, “No” making me look like the bad guy.

What is that about? How do you keep a straight face when men do this? Do women do it, too? I have found women stay in their lane but men think they know everything.

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I say no to shit like this all the time. To men and in front of a group. I’m not the asshole, you’re the asshole. I calmly explain that I’ve got several other deliverables that I need to prioritize and the earliest I could get it to you would be (insert some time I actually think I’ll be able to do something).

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Way to say “No” and not cave to pressure! It sounds like you have valid reasons and the SM didn’t listen to what the Partner had previously discussed with him.

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We are a team regardless of practice so I’m a bit confused about the situation. Where was your M/SM to say that’s out of your scope?

I feel like your comment was a bit far out... I would have said it differently. Asked more about is it a priority over all the other things on your plate? Or said, can we discuss with my partner after the call to prioritize as a team.

Where’s my M/SM 😂

Yes, we are a team, but when he decided to ask me about a potential deliverable that I out of his realm in front of the whole group — HE was choosing to not act as a team.

And my partner has straight up told him what the workflow is.

Yeah, I was snarky. 🤪

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