I’m in constant chronic pain and considering kratom but I hear it is addictive and damaging. Has anyone had experience with it?

Hey! I’m new here and would like some input. I’ve been working in a new position for almost 5 months. In that time I’ve witnessed some unethical and lots of unprofessional behavior. I’ve been yelled at and berated by my coworker 3 separate times because of minor errors. I’m ready to quit. There are so many major issues in this company that I don’t know if I want to subject my mental health to this degree of toxicity. I just don’t know how to move forward from here.

The person I’m seeing has been responding to my texts days later (only a recent development) and it’s making me anxious. They have been busy the past two weeks with PhD exams and their last message was them planning when they could see me again (in a really flirty way too), so logically I know the delay is not a sign of disinterest. But I have an anxious attachment style (if that’s not obvious) and my therapist is on leave right now, so I’m struggling. Do any of you have any advice?

Folks, why is this Boston Bowl so quiet (relatively speaking)? Is our community so small that we think there’s no anonymity to our posts? Are we so busy juggling (with Covid making it worse) that there’s no time for this? Or are we blissfully happy so not much to question or comment on? I learn much from the conversations in other Bowls and think Boston wisdom would be good to read too.

Any recommendations for medical malpractice attorneys in the Dallas, TX area? Preferably one with experience with abdominal aortic aneurysm stint procedures?

I feel so guilty for not always modeling good health. Anybody else feel that way?

So it finally happened. I tested positive for Covid (triple vaccinated). I am definitely sick coupled with more mental and emotionally, I feel such guilt despite being so damn careful.

We’re considering discontinuing our emergency clinic due to staff burnout. However, the next closest ER is more than an hour away. How do we break the news to clients?

Thoughts on cupping therapy?

Hi. I have very low AMH, 36 years old & never have been pregnant. I have done 2 IVF cycles this year approx 5 months apart. Each time had only 2 eggs retrieved, 1 fertilization each which lead to the embryo reaching blastocyst stages both times & both came back normal after genetic testing 🤍 talk about beating the statistics odds! 🤞🏻 I now have 2 cutie embryos saved. My husband & I would love to have twins and will be speaking to my doctor about the best options. Twins thoughts?

At this moment, I am almost depressed. I am in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now. In the past 2 years, we have fought more than we have lived days with peace. We both have high ego problems because of which it’s really hard to resolve a conflict. Things have recently escalated to calling names/swearing and even physically abuse from both sides. We both want to end the relationship, have tried so many times, but we cannot.

Cont. in comments.

I scheduled my PTO for May months ago. I'm now nervously taking it in the middle of a hard audit that was scheduled in March. I feel so anxious as I know my work will be crazy when I'm back. Should I leave audit? I just feel I have too many anxious moments that comprise my mental health.

I'd like to hear other cases where telehealth has proved to be more beneficial. Me personally, I work in primary care and was able to identify cholecystitis and get them to the OR More quickly as if they were actually coming to the office. I do think it can be very efficient.

I’m in Georgia, and in the process of settling a claim. The liability insurance rendered the full policy limits of 25k, a release has not been signed yet, the coverage is 25/50can I still send a loss of consortium demand for the non-injured spouse ?

Hi! New Yogi here. I love yoga AFTER I’ve done yoga... if that makes sense. During yoga, I’m fidgety and restless and I can’t seem to concentrate. But after? Phew! I love the mushy, warm, puddle feeling. Can anyone offer some advice to ease my way into doing yoga consistently?

For background I’m normally a heavy lifter type of gal but with covid I’m trying to find a wider range of activity. All comments/thoughts welcome!

New to recovery and had an intake call with an IOP program. They said all sessions will be on Zoom and I’m really nervous that I won’t connect to the program virtually. Anyone start rehab virtually?

Planning to visit Playa del Carmen with wife and a kid for a month. For people who have done it before, any tips on getting health insurance? Will mostly be working remote, so would you suggest getting an Airbnb or resort/hotel?

Can anyone recommend a powerlifting program? Goal is to up leg strength and maintain/aesthetic upper (don’t care for benching for max). Thanks!

We have signed a night nanny. Maybe it’s my hormones, but I start to worry that the nanny may get sick during her daily activities and pass it to the newborn. She is a responsible person and promises that she wouldn’t come over if she’s sick. But sometimes one can spread virus before the symptoms start to show. Any suggestions?

Can you reverse the damage you have done to your health? I have lived a very unhealthy life, thanks to a range of reasons, and I am so afraid that I will not be able to turn this around and ever be healthy ☹️ for reference, I am 30 y/o

Hello everyone! I am looking for a referral to Emerson in the Houston, TX area as an application engineer. Please DM me if interested and I will send you my resume so we can have a conversation about my skill set.

Thoughts on datadog?

What's wrong going on with Infy nowadays...cleared a technical interview and got scheduled for second round of interview(that means cleared first round)...but couldn't join due to mother's appointment with doctor ..so informed everyone about the same and requested to reschedule...after two months ..status remains "review in progress" , one day hr called and said 'your interview is pending na..scheduling it the next day.please expect an invite for tomorrow 2nd interview'but got rejection email???

I’m a new analyst at a PE firm, and my associate keeps blaming me for things she does wrong. Like she will tell me I made the wrong change, even though she is the one who changed it. Or in calls with other people, she won’t take responsibility for things that she told me to do that the other person calls out as wrong. How can I handle this situation without making her mad but also not letting her step all over me?

Does anyone have benchmarks they can share on the right ratio of software developers in an organization? For example, software developers in ratio to other employees, or per a certain revenue total? Anything you have would be helpful thanks

Where does everyone offload photos from their phone? I’m out of storage

the deal I made myself was- If I ever wake up in the morning and regret not drinking the night before, I can reconsider sobriety.

Hey all
I am looking for a female flatmate to share a 2bhk with me.
Gurgaon office
Flat is within 1 km from office.

How do you trade after hours? Am I an idiot or can you not trade on TD when the market is closed?

Looking to break into the food tech industry in the bay area - has anyone worked for any empowering companies that they can speak for as having a truly strong company culture? Have worked as a program manager for the last two years at a sustainable food company, but the diversity, equity and inclusion, work-life balance, and level of respect are all oldschool and not ideal for queer, non-binary folx such as myself. THANK YOU in advance :)

How much are you saving each month for retirement and savings account?
I love this city and trying to save for a down payment is not easy.

I feel burnt out and want to leave my job (have felt this for months now) but right now probably isn’t a good time to do that. Since my agency had layoffs, they are expecting me to take on a lot of the work left behind. Any advice or suggestions on keeping my sanity? I feel suffocated staying in my current role and want to cry at the thought of doing more work for the agency. I feel like I have no choice unless I’m willing to be unemployed :(

Anyone done Santa Fe / Toas NM … looking for some recommendations. We are outdoorsy with an infant.

I am extremely burnt out. I went to my first trial a few weeks ago and it was two weeks of no sleep and constant berating by the lead counsel. The months leading up to that trial were also very intense. I need a break, but I don’t even know who to talk to about this. I work for a boutique so our HR department is only two people who don’t seem very helpful. But I also haven’t connected well with anyone at the firm (I started remotely during the pandemic). Any advice on how to approach this?

What is the average salary for a Private Bank Senior Associate at Bank of America?

Where do you need the most support in your RP practice?

How much does a Senior in Tech Consulting at EY pay ?
Place: Dallas,TX
YOE: 5

New to recovery and had an intake call with an IOP program. They said all sessions will be on Zoom and I’m really nervous that I won’t connect to the program virtually. Anyone start rehab virtually?

I’ve managed well during all of this and am approaching my first full year of sobriety. But the thoughts of “I want to get slammed at a bar when this is over” are starting.

13 years, 3months and 21 days! Its not been easy, but definately can be accomplished! Hard work, GOD a a desire to change, and not in that order!

4+ months sober. I do zoom AA every day but this was the first time I shared as a newcomer. I have some phone numbers from the group and hoping to get a sponsor soon. I plan to be sober 1 year before I can think of doing the steps. I read Living Sober and The Big Book every day in addition to prayer and mindful meditation. But would love to chat with someone “telephone therapy” can be something like Discord or WhatsApp.

“Like” this post if this has been a tough week for you too...help me feel not so alone.

Is Al Anon really helpful for spouses/children affected by alcoholism or other addictions? Does anyone have insight on this

Recently had a friend tell me about Kill The Can. Says he posts there every day to help keep the addiction out in the open. He is now over 1000 days clean.
Is there anything like this out there for SA/PA? My highest stint of days was 237 and haven’t gotten close since. Mostly making it 1 month and then falling again…
Thoughts?

Does anyone go to AA meeting while on the road? It would make life so much better for me if I could go, but I always feel like there isn’t time or I’m at the client too late

How do you manage overwhelming cravings at work when you can't get to a meeting, and are super stressed? It's building up for me and I am really struggling.

Where to start. Sitting here contemplating life after a sixer and wondering why I keep getting to this place. I make my family scared of me and push my wife and kids farther away while I think everything is ok.I can stop drinking when I need to focus on work, but when things get out of control I just drink it away. Tired of this cycle but unsure where to turn, but I know if I continue down this path it won’t be good. I am a vet and think I have PTSD, but turn to the bottle when needed

Sibling is 52 days sober from heroin/cocaine, but I just found a syringe and alcohol wipes under their pillow.

They have been passing observed urine tests, how is it possible that they’re using? Any ideas?

Today was day 3 without Adderall (1st work day) & I felt extremely tired and sleepy all day. Any ideas on how to make my detox go easier? My 1 cup of Starbucks cold brew was useless lol

This past Wednesday (the 24th), was 3 years of sobriety for me.

In 15 years of weekend binge/blackout drinking, NEVER had I gone more than 3 weeks without a drink (typically never more than 1 weekend without a drink), and now my sobriety is counted in years (though still one day at a time).

I am beyond grateful and I know that this is something I could never do on my own.
🙏 ❤️

I wanted to take a moment to thank everyone who shares in this group. It truly helps me stay sober. I am approaching 12 months sober but have been struggling lately. While I have not relapsed, I’ve been close. Normally, before I get out of bed, I write down my reason to stat sober for the day, but lately the reasons have been lousy at best. But reading about everyone’s struggles and successes has helped get me through this past month. So thank you all for the inspiration to keep going strong!

I got a dui under the influence of alcohol a few months ago and fighting the case with my attorney. However, I am in the job market and afraid if I get an offer this will show up in my background check. How do I explain this to my potential employer if asked?

My last drink was me polishing off an expensive bottle of champagne on New Years. Tux on. In bed. It was a fitting farewell to booze. I’m thinking this could be a whole new thing for me. I’m certainly better off without it. I’m a bit worried about things opening up again. Parties. Travel. The roaring 20s. Got to keep up with the meditations and have plenty of proxies on hand.

Brother’s addiction has taken a turn for the worse. Always seems to coincide with when I have a newborn baby (everything blew up when my first baby was 1 month old). Last time I was heartbroken and terrified, this time I feel more numb to it and just want to not deal with it. Will it ever get better? What is my obligation?

I’ve been sober about 14 months, and now with things opening up more I’ve been going out to dinner, concerts etc with friends. I’ve been finding it hard to have fun, or not get restless while out. I think a large part of this is maybe I find the company around me boring? and they’re also all drinking. Maybe I just needed to write that out and vent to say, I’m bored! Maybe saying that out loud will help me get out of my comfort zone to find new activities that change my outlook.

1st of all: I’m super inspired by this bowl. I’m now mid-30s and recently went 50+ days without drinking and felt good/productive. (Longest streak since before turning 21) But how do you stick with it? I’m conflicted bc I haven’t hit a “rock bottom” and part of me loves a glass of wine to unwind and mark the end of the workday, but I also have a hard time stopping once I start (no such thing as 1 glass). Feel boarder-line between these 2 worlds and unsure where to go. Anyone feel similar?