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I'm in love with a married man. We've had a thing since we were kids and about 8 years ago we broke up. His mom was a master manipulator and I left thinking he didn't want me and I recently found out he thought I left him. Classic miscommunication. He is married but unhappy. They have a toddler and I know he'll never leave her just because of the child. My heart is so broken. I've loved other people, but it was different with him. I don't know how to go on. Anyone have advice or similar exper?

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I would say see a therapist.

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What’s the point of waiting for it if it’s never going to happen. Should just cut off all the ties and invest somewhere else. There are times when you know you cannot love anyone else more than this one particular person and that’s ok. But you cannot be stuck in it and not give something else a chance. Saying this as a person who has thought many times that I wouldn’t be able to love more than this!

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Also was in a relationship with a married man so I can totally understand what you are going through.

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These things never end good .

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Oddly, I am stuck in a broken marriage (the flame is gone) and I imagine what could have been. My wife us effectively a stranger. Im not judging, but if the married man is unhappy in his marriage, maybe it's ok.

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No one is stuck, they’re just afraid of change.

It feels awful to be the other woman OP. I lost the love of my life too cause he’s married and I had to walk away. No one compares to him but you find happiness. And looking back now, being his side piece would have been settling. And if he got divorced and married me, I’d always wonder if he was cheating on me too.

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