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Lived with several different guys over the years (all in roommate capacity). The biggest issue is always setting standards on cleanliness from the beginning and being able to talk about things in a non passive aggressive way. I do think it helps if you and the guy are somewhat friends, makes things less awkward. I had one guy roommate that was clueless and messy, and another that kept the kitchen clean and tidied up. If you don’t have to share a bathroom it’s even better
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I lived with a guy who was much older than me for 3 years (another girl who was in between our ages). We had such different schedules, we never saw each other and quite honestly had a fantastic roommate situation.
I've lived with straight men before and we were purely in a platonic relationship. I honestly think roommate dynamics depend on the personality/lifestyle/values more than anything. My men roommates were chill, introverted, and kept to themselves. We were all friends before living together. Some of us were in relationships (with people outside the home), others single. Media makes it seem like all men and women can't live together without ending up in sexual situations 😂 I have quite a few friends who live in co-ed housing situations and it's worked out fine.
I believe cleanliness is not associated with a gender as well, I know plenty of slobs who are women and neat freaks who are men.
had a male roommate and he was a total slob. the kitchen was always disgusting and he would take my food. he also would bring over women so often.
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Lol, this is how my guy roommates would have probably described me. Except for the taking the food part.
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I had a male roommate but we had mutual friends so perhaps a different situation. Living with him was great, he was actually far cleaner than any female roommate I had and I felt very safe with him. He was extremely kind and would walk with me if I needed to make an evening grocery store or something.
This is the same experience I had. Everything was great. But then he ended up getting together with my female roommate and things got ugly very quickly lolol. Turns out male roommates can be just as petty and dramatic as the girls!
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I had a male roommate. He was gay so it didn't feel as weird. I also didn't know him before he moved in.
After that a roommate sublet her room to a straight guy we didn't know. I don't recommend living with a strange guy, but it actually did turn out really well. But I was nervous until I got to know him and definitely felt like I had to act differently while he lived there
This was all in college btw haha
Also lived with a guy (and a gril) back in uni, was totally fine but I made sure that I would be a good fit
Had both male and female roommates before (that were not friends, didn't know them). The male roommate was actually the best out of all the roommates I had. Kept his mess in his own room and never touched the kitchen (bc he didn't know how to cook). On the contrary, the female roommates always leave a mess everywhere, kitchen, bathroom, living room. Ugh.
I lived with 2 straight males and 1 other female after college. They were great! Easy to get along with, no drama, and were helpful in doing the chores I didn’t want to do (like take out the trash). The cleanliness level may be a concern, but so long as this is discussed beforehand, I say go for it!
In college I only lived with females. We kept things fairly tidy with a weekly chore chart. Since college, I’ve lived with male roommates and my experience has been great. One was a random and he was friendly, always cleaned up after himself in the kitchen. The other has been slightly messier with the kitchen but still cleans his dishes right away and keeps the mess in his own room. Both rarely used common spaces. I would agree w what someone said above about setting expectations for how you like things - cleaning regimen, etc. if you ask nicely and directly, they have no problem and don’t add any drama to it. I honestly do most of the apartment cleaning bc I like the satisfaction of knowing ive cleaned it to the degree that I prefer and I have never really asked my male roommates to do much cleaning. I could ask them to contribute in other ways such as buying cleaning supplies etc. I feel like girls have been more dramatic overall and also leave a mess in the bathroom - like hair in the shower drain, sink, makeup, etc. (yes I realize I’m 100% OCD when it comes to cleanliness)
Also for clarity, I lived w these male roommates on separate occasions. It wasn’t two male roommates at once.
Come and knock on our door! Hehe
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Oh thanks for the explanation! This reference completely went over my head 😂
I lived with two guys once and for the most part it was ok, but one of the guys had borderline personality disorder and it was not easy living with him for those weeks he was down.
I would also note that he did not disclose to me his personality disorder until after we had lived together for a few months.
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Also I’ve never lived with someone who identified themselves as NB and so far all the apartment listings have specified male/female, so not trying to be exclusionary!
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I really appreciate all the replies everyone! Thank you ☺️
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I have never had a male roommate (except for husband) but I think a gay guy roommate would be a blast!!!! And they would be talkative and help decorate!! Lol
I live with three boys. They're awesome.
I lived with 5 male strangers 2 of my college years. They were a year older than me, and great. Just set boundaries and expectations and its pretty good, like full send we were good buds. Some of my female roommates have been clingy or crossed boundaries but the guys were fun, drama free, and just so easy to live with. I think i was blessed that they were pretty clean dudes too.
Lived with a male roommate in college (and another girl, 3 of us total). We were acquaintances beforehand but not too close, but we had a lot of mutual friends that i trusted and i kinda knew he wasnt the type of guy to do anything. I and the guy both had long term relationships going in anyway. No issues living together for 2.5 years and the 3 of us are still best friends to this day. He was kinda dirty/sloppy but was good at helping clean up and such without complaint if we brought it up, and ofc i didnt care about the state of his personal room. Really just depends on the guy, but i loved my time living with those 2