I’m new here and just want to say how refreshing it is to see all of you here. I’m the only child free person by choice at my firm and in my friend group and I’m my family, and it’s incredibly isolating. Wish we could all grab drinks!

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Welcome.

When it gets hard and isolating, I try to do something fun that would be difficult for ppl with kids to do.

One of my favorites is to wake up on a Saturday around 10 am, turn to my wife and say something like pack a bag for the night, let's go somewhere.

Start driving before you decide where to go.

Or do the same and just go to Vegas for a night with zero planning. We hit Vegas for one night without bags or a room once when we were young.

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That sounds SO fun! We adore our old kitty but once she’s gone I’m going to suggest these types of things.

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Same here, and single.. it’s so hard!

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Same. And single. I’m taking myself on dates lately…forcing myself to go out and do things my married with kids friends are absolutely unable to do…like go to a show on a Wednesday night. Helps to get out of the echo chamber that is my apartment and my brain. Ha.

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Same and married for 15 years. No regrets!

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We can! What city are you in

Lots of CF people in Denver.

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