I'm not keen on any of my coworkers but this has never happened to me before. They have invited me for drinks a few times and I've chosen not to go but now I'm wondering if it will affect our environment negatively. Have always loved hanging out with coworkers in the past and made such a difference. Should I try to see if I like them over wine?

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I probably would if it's not too much of a hassle to go. I'm not much of a social butterfly and don't think you need to be friends with colleagues, but if there's a chance it makes your work life easier, it's probably worth doing.


Why are you not keen on them? Is it because they’re like strangers to you or did they make your life miserable at work? If the former, just go for an hour or so. If the latter, make excuses to not go.


Hey you don’t have to say yes to every hang out with them , but every now and then especially when it’s convenient for you , go , give them a chance.

I made best friends with some colleagues that I never imagined I would. Sometimes and some people it just takes time


I seem to be of the unpopular opinion that in this industry if I actually have time after work, I’d prefer to hang out with my partner or real friends, not my “work friends”. That said, I probably do the after work activities 1-3 times a year because you can learn a lot about them and the problems going on…I’d say just give it a chance once and then it’s fine if you don’t go again

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