I'm not sure if this is the correct place to seek help but I need it desperately. I'm a sex addict and I can't stop. I have been with my wife for almost a decade and I have lost count of the number of women I have cheated on her with. I have been "lucky" that she has never found out but I literally can't stop. I feel ill lose everything if she discovers this and I truly and deeply do love her. I just don't know how to fix myself. Please help!

Anyone else notice if they’re throwing out more food than Pre-pandemic? Trying to plan family meals two weeks at a time, to limit exposure. But noticing there’s undoubtedly waste—whether it be bread or fresh veggies. Part of it is the “I’m too tired to cook let’s order out” but that is only 1-2x a month. Looking for advice how other families have dealt.

I am in my early 40's and have about $300K invested and some in cash. I have $70K in credit card debt (no lavish lifestyle, just 2 bouts of unemployment and some major medical expenses, even after insurance).

I live below my means, LCOL city, used car, max my 401K, save my bonuses, etc.

I am going to get a large bonus where after tax, I'll get a couple hundred thousand.

Should I prioritize pay off all credit cards or pay down half/some of the cards and use the rest for a house down payment?

How many dependants/in laws can be covered in PWC medical policy.

Anyone ever successfully been in/currently in an open relationship?

I'm a product engineer and it's hard to turn off work mode at the end of the day, I think of how products *should* be packaged when I'm shopping and can't understand why my wife doesn't care 🤷

My roommates boyfriend is literally always here. I’m honestly getting really annoyed. Like he was here 4-6 days last week.

When I started in this industry, it was all about radio and direct mail. Now, most are doing video content and influencer marketing. What do you think our children will be influenced by?

Found a really nice house in a good school district but with 0% Asian population (let alone desis). Wanted to get people’s perspective on sending kid to such a school. Kid is 3 year old.

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

Met this guy through friends a few years back. He made me feel really special, told me he was going through a bad patch with his gf at that point. Things happened between us in a couple of months and

Do you ever feel like you’re just never going to experience real love or be that ‘special someone’ for somebody? I sometimes feel like I am defective in some way, because despite being in my early 30s, I have never felt particularly special to any guy I have been with- it’s always felt like I am the space filler until they meet the right person

I am in self-contained. Our students are never sent home even tho they are obviously ill. Only projectile vomiting sends a student home. So then we staff get sick because of our close contact, toileting, etc, and have to use our sick days and then run out of sick days. Anyone else experiencing this?

Anyone with relationships that did not survive the pandemic, how did it happen? Any regrets? Married, engaged, or just dating?

Any one ever heard of a Pakistani and an Egyptian getting married? How did it go? Pakistani guy Egyptian girl.

Has anyone worked as a medical assistant for a temp agency? If so how was it? Likes? Dislikes?

My kids were really upset with me when I told them that my job as an engineer did not mean that I drove trains for a living

Anyone else seen the Aviva/women’s aid ad? Honestly one of the best Irish ads I’ve seen in a long time.

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Hi All! Here looking for work in Healthcare Operations/Project Management. Open to FT physical position in South Florida, as well as hybrid or remote positions within the US. Looking forward to networking.

Hi everyone, unfortunately I was recently affected by a layoff at my company. About 30% of their marketing department along with other departments were all let go. I have 3+ professional experience with product marketing, digital marketing, and event management. Im on the hunt for a new job and am fairly new to this lovely city. If you know of anyone looking for marketing specialists or would like to network let me know. Id love to connect!

I’m stuck at a transitional point in my career where I can’t figure out a direction that I feel excited about. Does anyone have resources, books, career coaches, etc. that may help me find clarity?

In the heat of combat, there's no second to waste. I've never felt more focused in my life than when I'm holding a rifle, it is like the rest of the world disappears, and it's just me and the instinct to survive.

Please help me. I don't like my project. Also I am not getting proper KT . People are very busy and they are saying do this and that. They are not explaining the project properly to me. I can't work like this. I am already frustrated within 2.5months. is there any way I can change my project ? Or I should try outside? Please suggest

For those of you who are recently married - how did you FIRE and pay for a wedding?

Hi.. I have received offer from JP but I couldn't find grade 601/602 anywhere in the offer letter. Could you please help where I can check this?

“No” is never an acceptable answer when dealing with customer support. Am I right or am I right?

Based Doug Jones

Who fills out the condo rider first? Buying a property off market and feeling confused. How can I attach a condo rider to an offer to buy if I don’t have that info on the condo myself?

I have 8.5 yr of experience as Back-end Java Developer in Walmart Labs. I am serving notice period looking for referal in Adobe, Atlassian, Salesforce, Airbnb,Linkedin, Razorpay.

Imagine a person lateraling into Big Law who has never had to do the billable hours previously. 1) What would be your best piece of advice? 2) What do you wish someone would have told you about billing when you started? 3) Is there maybe a book for someone entering the minefield on billing effectively and capturing time effectively? Thanks in advance!

I’m currently a 2nd year associate in commercial finance. I’ve realized I don’t enjoy a a strictly transactional practice. I enjoyed litigation matters as a summer (particularly the adversarial nature). Also, love talking and advising clients. I don’t want the litigation lifestyle and appreciate the in-house opportunities of transactional. Assuming that I could switch (or lateral), I’m thinking I may enjoy employment (and the ability to defend and train/advise). I appreciate any insight.

PSA: The past tense for lead is led. Please, for the love of god, stop using lead as the past tense for lead.

Been billing around 250 a month since December. I will hit around 215-220 this month. Today is the first day I’m kind of slow-ish and I wonder if I should ask for work, or I have low anxiety that the partners are wondering why I’m not “on”. I am a clown.

Anyone here who understands the 401k options that we have at PwC and has some analysis on where and how much we should be putting in given our limited visa ?

On the sexist air conditioning thing. I try to sympathize with the air being tuned to my level vs yours. But please also understand that I am covered in hair that I cannot take off and you are not.

So, here’s my dirty confession. I genuinely like my agency, my coworkers, and my job as a whole.

In August of 2019, I hit rock bottom. I was working at a T1 law firm as a summer associate, and was constantly drinking (before work, during work, and of course at all the after work social events). Things got so bad for me someone reported my drinking to HR and an investigation was launched. I have been sober since. But now I am applying to be admitted to the bar and the character and fitness committee is making me relive my darkest time on repeat. It is very triggering. (Contn in comments)

A couple of us analysts started a Facebook group, we’re hosting meetings, supporting our community, being of service virtually while coronavirus is going on. Can we claim volunteer hours for this!? :)

Amazing feeling waking up the Monday after Super Bowl and not being hungover like past years. Thank you all for the support in this bowl!

Update: reading “Quit Like a Woman” and loving it! I’m on Chapter 6.

This time last year I knew I needed to stop drinking, but I couldn’t. This year, though, I’m putting my health first. Starting day 2 of sobriety and hope to keep it up. Thanks to this group for all the support and encouragement shown to those of us struggling with such powerful addictions.

I’m taking Antabuse. It’s the only thing keeping me from drinking right now while I’m home for the holidays

How does D handle leaves of absence for substance abuse? Who knows the diagnosis or anything beyond I’m on a medical leave?

Starting a new year next as year three clean and sober and now since then I have gotten an apartment, a car, and a job I love, a hobby I enjoy and have grown exponentially! My parents were raging alcoholics and I suffered in silence until college when I was already drinking at sixteen and overseas I started drugs in college! There is a light in the tunnel and self love vs. self loathing is how I treat myself!

I wanted to take a moment to thank everyone who shares in this group. It truly helps me stay sober. I am approaching 12 months sober but have been struggling lately. While I have not relapsed, I’ve been close. Normally, before I get out of bed, I write down my reason to stat sober for the day, but lately the reasons have been lousy at best. But reading about everyone’s struggles and successes has helped get me through this past month. So thank you all for the inspiration to keep going strong!

13 years, 3months and 21 days! Its not been easy, but definately can be accomplished! Hard work, GOD a a desire to change, and not in that order!

Any tips on staying centered and productive in our industry while in program? I’m finding the emotional rawness required from program (especially as I work through steps 4 and 5) is making me very self conscious of my impacts on others and I feel like it’s affecting my ability to be a good leader because I’m so in my own head

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.

I’m studying addiction psychology and I’m curious what treatments you all have personally found to be most effective (eg types of therapies, 12 step programs, rehabs, detoxes, spiritual practices etc)

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

Alcohol + SO. I stopped drinking about 3months ago. Was trying to eliminate triggers for a new skin condition (alc/ bad food/airplane air / stress appeared to be triggers). And skin IS better! My BF

Hello, I’m looking for accountability partners to help quit smoking hookah. I was clean for about 3 yrs, and have relapsed recently and finding it hard to quit smoking it.

Had a really rough drinking episode this past weekend. Broke some things in our house. Don’t remember. For 20 years now, I can have 1-2 drinks and be fine 9/10 times, and that 10% I go HARD. Sometimes I just really need it, but it’s always filled with regret the next day. I really want to be able to drink a glass of wine or have a couple beers, but now my SO says 100% abstinence. Is it possible with my background and history or abuse to even try to do this anymore, or should I completely stop.