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Prioritize you and your health first always - can’t take care of anyone else if you aren’t healthy yourself. I don’t think it’s cool of them to guilt you into prioritizing them over yourself.
Our living situation was and is still not the best, so I've tried numerous times to find my parents a new place, even trying to convince them to move out of state so to have a better quality of life. They continued to make excuses related to moving so late last year I decided it was time for me to move out. But everytime I mention it they've successfully guilted me into staying or can be negative. This week I found out I have a few health related issues and therefore hope to move up my move out date. I'm also planning on going back to school next year, so want to mentally and physically prepare in the meantime and get healthy, which I believe is possible more so if I were to have my own space. I told my parents this and was criticized for considering to move out this summer since my mom would be out of the country for 3 weeks (and possibly around the time I plan to move) and there would be no one home during then to "take care of my dad and sister". Though my dad has a few health issues, he is fine otherwise and my sister is home from college for the summer. They essentially said I was selfish and didn't care about them. Granted, I've taken on alot of responsibility at home such as paying the rent, buying groceries etc etc., being there for my parents and sister and making sure everyone is okay so, in a way I've enabled them to somewhat take advantage of me, but I say all of this to say that I am pretty upset at the reaction from my parents. At this point, I don't know if I am overreacting or not. Just a bit confused on how to feel and next steps.
So sorry you’re going through this, family is so hard sometimes. You are not being selfish, especially after already giving so much. Unfortunately I’ve learned that no one will have your best interest in mind except your self, so please prioritize that. You deserve to have your basic emotional needs met, including time and space to heal - it’s so much more important than we realize and talk about. Good luck 💙