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I'm pregnant with my managers child 😳

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You do you girl! I think you need to decide if you want to have the baby or not. If you're considering abortion look into the facts... A lot of research shows that it won't impair your ability to have kids later etc. Its safe and healthy. And a totally valid option of you choose that, as is keeping it. I think that it's nice you want to include your manager in the decision but honestly it's your body and your choice. Do what's best for you. I don't think the age difference is a big deal at all, or relevant to the situation. I also don't think you necessarily have to switch firms or notify HR if you terminate the pregnancy. If you choose to stay with your manager and have the baby (or stay with him and don't have the baby) I think it's better to at least switch teams but you can both work at the same firm. It's a little messy but in my group we have several married couples who just work on different projects.

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If this is real, I would seriously suggest talking to a psychologist about what the best thing to do would be. They are like mental independent auditors. They will give you unbiased advice. Changing jobs may put a lot of unneeded stress on you and the little one.

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You need to move over to EY ASAP and get in on that 16 week maternity leave policy

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I would rate you at next level for Relationships.

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Too bad not with the partner's

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I hope this is a joke. Who has time for sex in the audit room during busy season?

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Can't believe I had to find out like that. She just dropped the knowledge bomb during a return review with the partner. I have a family to consider! You said you were on the pill!

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I KNOW RIGHT? I tried

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Keep the baby. Get the court order for child support. Switch the firm.

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I'd rather not run a food truck....

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Please do not abort the child. There are many people looking to adopt who will love and take care of him/her if you are unable to. A new life is always a blessing. Period.

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I am the child inside the OP. Don't abort.

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I was waiting for someone to do that

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10/10, PwC 10 = Father

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Was leaning towards "Y"

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Friedman 1 I'm literally snorting here

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I would hope it's not happening IN the audit room. Props to these guys if they pull that one off.

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It can't work with you both at the same office and in the same group. You're young enough that if you switch groups, no one would think anything of it. Once there's no "reporting relationship," it's not technically against the rules. You can disclose to HR at that point to "protect" both of you and it's supposed to remain anonymous and actually can stay anonymous if you're discrete. Your age difference is small enough that it wouldn't be completely terrible if people knew, but it also doesn't look great that you were seeing another coworker before this guy. Not judging, just highlighting the reality of the situation. If you don't want to keep the baby, that is also completely okay. All these people telling you he has a "right to know" have no real comprehension of the situation. Yeah it would be nice to let him weigh in, but it's your body that's either going to get drastically changed by giving birth or your uterus that will have had an abortion and can affect things later in life, not your manager's. Do what's right for you. Put your needs first because no one else is going to. Unless you two are serious and you both love each other and are ready to commit to starting a family together, I would abort and transfer locations and/or switch firms. Would definitely love to hear more of what's going through your head and what you end up deciding if you feel like sharing. I know of a similar relationship situation, bigger age difference but no chance of babies (🍆✂️), so don't feel like your life/career is over or like you'll never get past this.

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Thank you, PwC6, that was helpful :)

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PwC 10's last comment and this comment - def makes him the father.. I still can't believe this is real.

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I made my manager pregnant. She is forcing me to marry her now. I am 26 and shes 30. What should I do OP?

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