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I’m recovering from trauma and depression after being manipulated by a “friend”. Ended up quitting my job and leaving my relationship because he bullied me so often about those things. I keep replaying the tape over and over again in my head. Trying to comb through all the deception, lies and gaslighting. Has anyone been through a simile thing? What does the other end look like?

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Get therapy. A friend should never be able to manipulate you into doing these things.

I go to therapy 2-3x a week for nearly a year already. I combed through my entire childhood for patterns to figure out why and we’ve worked through a lot of stuff.

The aftermath of this person did such a big number on me. I would constantly get triggered when doing normal things and felt like I couldn’t move forward with my life. It only started easing up in the past few weeks.

Yes. Al-Anon helped me tremendously with my obsessive thoughts and overthinking.

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