I’m sad that I have to do this, but I think I need to re-home my cat. He’s alone at home from like 8 am to 8pm or later most days now that I have to go back into the office. It’s just not fair for him. I personally haven’t tried, but the notes from the previous owner said he doesn’t do well with other cats so getting another cat isn’t an option. :(

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Yes; you must give up the cat. I gave up my 4-year-old daughter for adoption when my Big Law firm told me to come back to the office. I literally had no other option. Firm is life. It was my daughter or my financial services client’s acquisition of another financial services company.

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That’s not what’s happening here.

If it was a dog, I’d say that’s valid, but as a cat person, trust me, he’s really probably happy you’re gone. Get him enrichment items, nice cat trees, slow feeders, treat hiders, and a heated cat bed and he’ll be fine. They sleep 16 hours a day per most studies.

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I mean, I’m in big law and I have two dogs, cats and a horse. 😂 I make it work with my husband and neighbor kids for the dogs and then I shareboard my horse so she’s ridden more often during the week. You can make it work if you try. Cats just really don’t care all that much. Mine just want to be fed and snuggled when I read my book in the evening.

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This is an absolute gut punch to even hear someone considering rehoming their FAMILY MEMBER for this stupid-ass job. First of all, find a different job before you re-home your cat. Second of all, cats do just fine at home alone for long periods of time.

Seriously. Snap out of it. This is insane. I’m guessing you’re frustrated with your job and your bringing this up as a “modest proposal” as a roundabout way of expressing their frustration. Because no human being with a soul would ever want to give up their cat so easily, and I think I’m your heart you’d never actually want to do this.

Here’s a picture of my cat. I’d die before I’d ever even consider re-homing him.

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Great response. I would literally also die before rehoming my cats.

Dude stop going into the office before you get rid of your pet…

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I bill 2200+ in M&A at a V10, but only come into the office once a week for like 5 hours. Stellar reviews, zero complaints from anyone about my lack of attendance. A large portion of my hours are billed with my cute cat “helping” by trying to cuddle up on my keyboard.

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I thought the same thing about my kids, no one would take them though.

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Just make an effort to play with him for a good half hour when you get home, cuddles in the morning and at bedtime. Have tons of toys and a cat tree and scratching post for him. Keep some lights on, I’ve had friends leave NPR on for their dogs and cats when they are gone. That cat loves you, it’ll break his heart to be rehomed and not see you again :(

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Here is a good game I have for my 2 cats: I. The morning I hide some treats all around the house.
My wife has told me that once I leave they both start sniffing around the house looking for all of the treats I leave. Some days I leave just 4, others around 10. These are placed high and low so they have to climb and jump to find these.
I also leave some fuzzy balls around the house. They pick these up and play for 5-10 minutes at a time. They usually sleep the rest of the time and cuddle when I get home (they don’t cuddle much with the wife) or play with the 2 year old we have.

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I’m just going to also shamelessly leave a picture of my puppy whom I love so much

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Bro I have three dogs and I’m billing 2500. You’re fine don’t give away the damn cat

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uh how about some timesheet pics 🥵😮‍💨🫠

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Do not re home your cat over this. Cats are very territorial and ripping him out of his home and into a new one is waaaaay more traumatic than him being alone during the day. As others have said, make sure you have enough stimulus for him - cat trees, toys, places where he can look out the window, access to food and water. He will be totally fine and waiting excitedly for you to get home. Being a guardian to any pet is a commitment for their lifetime, just like a child. You can’t get rid of him because he doesn’t fit your work schedule.

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can we know your firm P1? read through all your comments on this post and you seem like one of the “good guys”

Same I thought cats are ok in these situations, long as they have their food and a clean litter box. Are you sure your cat needs the attention?

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I have had great success with Rover! You can find someone to spend 30min with him in your home during the day to give him some love.

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Update - I thought more about it. I am not rehoming my cat. I’ll try to figure out another solution.

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Yay OP! You got this. There is a great episode on cats on the podcast Ologies that can give you lots of ideas and places to start.

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I think people are judging me way too harshly for this. I want my cat to have the best life possible, which would include spending time with someone who has a lot more time for him.

I could be selfish and just have him deal with long periods of being alone, but I’ve read a lot about cats and realize that they actually don’t like to be alone.

I’ve done many of the things people have suggested on here. He has a huge bay window to look out at wildlife at home, and he has a ton of cat toys. But at the end of the day, I just can’t help but think he isn’t happy.

Would you be ok with your cat being lonely and sad just because you think he’s ok being alone for 12+ hours a day?

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Can you not pay a cat sitter or a neighbour who’s at home during the day to spend a couple of hours a day with him? Or leave the office in the afternoon and work from home in the evening?

I honestly don’t think cats care that much about being alone - I could be wrong but they are nocturnal anyway?

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My family dog was left at home alone every workday of his 18 year life and was just fine. Your cat will be OK. Work from home once a week if you can and if it makes you feel better.

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And to note, during COVID when I went back to my parents’ house and we all worked from home, we were excited to see what he did all day - turns out he just sleeps. It’s fine.

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Meanwhile the cat is thinking . . . Finally some peace and quiet with nobody bothering me. Unlike dogs, most cats are fine being left alone during the day.

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This post is literally insane. People who have children make it work everyday, but you're going to give up your cat?! So gross

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That’s partially bc the cat isn’t lonely. Bc it’s a cat. Jesus we leave our cat home when we leave town for a weekend.

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I leave my cat home alone and go on vacation… he’s fine.

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Same. If I’m gone a night or two, I won’t even have someone check on them. I’ll just leave a bunch of food out and occasionally peek at them on the Furbo camera. Any longer than that, I have a friend drop by every day or two to refresh food and play for a few minutes with the one that doesn’t hide.

Cats wail. They are singing the song of their people. Mine do it when we are home - it's not necessarily separation anxiety. I wouldn't reject the idea of another cat, though. He would probably do fine with a kitten. My older resident cats have always loved their kitten brothers, after a slow introduction. Regardless, he's fine by himself. Maybe play with him in the morning like someone said - wear him out.

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Please do not do this. You have the ability to love your cat. This job isn’t worth it. If you can, go home during lunch or leave the office at a reasonable time and start working again when you get home.

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