I’m scared my partner doesn’t like having sex with me. He hasn’t initiated in months (it’s been all me), he hasn’t brought up how little we’re having sex at all (I’ve initiated the conversation with him multiple times and he agrees that maybe once a month isn’t enough AT ALL, but it ends at “I agree with you”) and he doesn’t react at all if I try to be sexy. He can’t stop goofing around when we are in the moment and he knows it’s a mood killer for me.

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Tough pull to swallow incoming…. He may no longer feel attracted to you, so he’s slowly withdrawing.

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He’s cheating.

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Could be your hygiene.

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But OP’s hygiene never bothered him before, so unless there’s been some change, that doesn’t explain things.

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Maybe it’s a mental thing? Has he had any changes in behavior such as loss of interest (outside of sex)? Was he exercising before and has stopped since? How’re his external stressors holding up (job, family, etc)? AFAIK situations like this don’t usually end up as the worse case scenario and can be pinned down to a few areas

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Cont: I genuinely don’t know what the issue is, we’re in our 20’s and I’ve never had this issue with a guy before. He’s the best man I know and the best relationship I’ve had, EXCEPT for this one thing

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AAC1, it hasn’t, he used to initiate much more often in the beginning of our relationship. He mentioned a few months in that he wanted me to initiate more so I did and have been, but his initiating sex started dropping off after that. He’s had trouble recognizing any non-verbal cues from me and even following through when I straight up ask if he wants to have sex. He’s mentioned that he doesn’t feel attractive or confident in himself but I’ve done everything I can to let him know how attracted to him I am.

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People saying he’s cheating above without even knowing more about what’s going on. Who the hell can cheat at the moment anyway many people are still wfh and hardly out. Is he at home a lot because I can tell you there’s nothing worse than sitting indoors working a lot and not being active to dampen the urge

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