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I’m seeing a man who treats me great, makes me feel safe/cared for. He is consistent with making plans with me/texting and has introduced me to his friends & family (via phone). But he has said that he plans to move cities sometime next year and just wants to spend as much time w/ me as possible. Do I give it a shot and see if he wants a relationship too or set a time limit on deciding? I just don’t want to get attached and him leave or get stuck in a situationship knowing I want a relationship.

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So his plan is to spend as much time with you as possible and then move and never see each other again? Maybe I’m confused but why would he be doing all of this if the intent was not a relationship?

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Is there any chance of you moving with him? If not and you are looking for something long term, I would honestly bail now and stop wasting your time.

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I honestly thought I made this post and forgot. I've been seeing a guy for about 10 months and he is the same way. He's keeps interviewing for jobs on the opposite coast and talks about this future move pretty often. He treats me like a girlfriend but won't call me his girlfriend. We're exclusive. He's kind, helpful, supportive and he treats me like he loves me. I could see this as a long term relationship but he's always had one foot out the door. He got wasted one night and sobbed about having to "leave me behind." I've decided to just keep living my life and making decisions as if he weren't around. Dating during COVID is hard and without him I would have been completely alone since last March. It's enough for me right now. I've been really careful not build our relationship up in my head as well. A friend asked if I would move with him and my honest answer is no.

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Please do not waste your time. I know this kind. He won't commit to you no matter what.

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I was in the same position 10 years ago. My new boyfriend was in my same city temporarily for one year. He tried breaking up with me for the reasons cited above, but I said why not just continue to date while he was still there (I wasn’t too concerned about the long-term at the time I just knew I was happy hanging with him and him moving away was a future me problem). We didn’t even consider at that time whether one of us would move for the other. We ended up falling in love, had to do a year of long distance, but now we’ve been together 10+ years and have two beautiful kids. So not saying you shouldn’t be logical about things but hey you never know.

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Do not uproot your life without a commitment. But for this man, would you change jobs, move cities? If you announced you got a new job in a new city - would he move for you? Be very cautious. Seems you may be more invested in this relationship than he is (currently). Frankly - the test of a long distance relationship may not be a bad thing in this situation.

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This happened to me too! A little over a year ago my boyfriend and I met and started dating. He was always very clear about wanting to move cities. I just had the thought that I would be willing to see where it goes and we could decide later. Now that he got the transfer, he has been clear he wants me to join, but once I feel ready (not any time soon). I think if you’re open to potentially leaving if it works out, then it’s worth a shot!

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Flat out talk to him if he’s really leaving you behind or would be open to long distance.

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