I’m so bored. My husband of 1 year is the most boring person I have ever been this close to. He doesn’t initiate any activities with me at all and now barely engages in any casual light hearted conversations with me. He works (from home), watches TV a little, then takes a nap at 6pm. It dawned on me that while dating, I initiated more of the fun activities as I’m the more goofy one. He did a bit back then but now he just does nothing despite me bringing it up nicely multiple times. Need advice

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My only piece of advice is to have this conversation with him, but like really with him; not half distracted. Make sure he either actually hears you or repeats it back, like a child.

If that doesn't work, hit up Consultant 1 for some strange.


Lol thank you. I’ll try yet again

He’s hardworking, helps a lot around the house, and runs even my errands so he’s not a terrible person.

It’s a family of just 2 of us for now so he’s the only one I have physically around me. I don’t expect to have his attention 24/7. I work too and have other things that keep me busy but it just feels like the companionship disappeared and I’m bored out of my mind with him. I’ve asked him if there’s something weighing him down to which he said there wasn’t. Also, his job gives him a good balance so it’s not that. So I doubt he’s sad/depressed or anything like that. Anyone else experience this? Don’t know for how long I can put up with this.


Did you marry my wife?


OP: Where did you plan your vacation? I could use some tips. I am planning Banff

Try this book, maybe you can use it to pivot.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PhD, Nan Silver on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=1515948269&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006


Thank you


He might be depressed. Also, I would find entertainment / outlets elsewhere that may motivate him implicitly.


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