I’m so frustrated. Good looking guy, in his prime , cannot find a woman . I have depression. The women i want , don’t want me. And vice versa. I’m such a terrible mess

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You think you have depression because you cannot find a woman? Or you cannot find a woman because you have depression?
My first tip is that having a partner doesn’t suddenly solve everything else in life. Focus on your mental health and happiness and working on yourself. Just being in a calmer place with a clearer sense of what makes me happy opened so many doors for me - career-wise, and in finding a lifelong partner.

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Time to get swole brah

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Now .. how good looking are we talking about

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K1 & A2 - those comments are not helpful.

OP - depression will tell you that you’re not attractive enough or not a good enough person. It’s not true. I don’t need to know you or what you look like to say that. Plenty of people worse than you and worse looking than you have found love.

Chances are you have anxiety and struggle with self-worth. Focus on that. If you haven’t yet, try therapy.

Finally, make a conscious effort to put less pressure on yourself. It will make you feel better.

I say all of this knowing how you feel. I know how hard it is to change, especially to change a mindset. However, it’s worth the effort. Best of luck OP ❤️

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The best dating advice is self-improvement. I would advise reading Mark Manson’s work on dating. His philosophy is solid. Learn how to be sincere, empathetic, and transparent. Stand up for yourself. Stand tall. Deal with your shame and issues from the past. That’ll take care of most of it.

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It is super frustrating, am with you. Then you see some idiot friends getting hooked and you wonder what is wrong with you. But I learned the lesson, don’t fall for this trap. You will find someone, just go out there and be natural. Life is long and you can’t and should not let this get you into depression. I actually miss being single now 🙂

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Good looking enough for many people

I personally struggled with this too. I am an attractive Asian female who is fit and stylish. However, for the longest time, I couldn’t figure out why no one asked me out in college. For many other reasons, I struggled with depression too. At that time, I never thought I was attractive enough or ever imagined to be chased by multiple guys. I know how you feel but at least you recognize you are handsome and that’s the first step

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