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Need some advice. Started a few months ago a new job through internal transfer as a lead role in a bank for $350TC. Amazon Web Services keeps messaging me daily for a Principal role and I’m not really in the job market but I think I’ll go through the interview process. I was thinking of demanding the following but I’m not sure how realistic for a remote principle role this is
Base: $240k
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RSU: 9,100 shares ($1m PV) in (50/20/15/15)
Does this seem possible?
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It’s normal to think about this sometimes. But don’t dwell on it.
End of the day, who cares what you need to function? The fact is - you’re making it. You’re employed. You’ve probably got people that love you. Might even have a hobby or two as well.
Everyone - neurodivergent or not - needs something. Nobody is perfect because perfect doesn’t exist. All humans are different. Accept yourself, my friend!
We are who we are though. And undoubtedly you have traits that neurotypicals are envious of, so I would make sure that you remind yourself of that from time to time!
I think abt it in terms of how far I've gotten with undiagnosed ADHD, and now I will have the opportunity to reach my full potential (diagnosed with ADHD two wks ago at 36). Think abt the opportunity.
We all have our own cross to bear. Whenever I start to feel down on myself about my diagnosis, I remind myself that there are millions of other people who can't do many of the things I can that I take for granted, such as see and hear and walk. It really is all relative. Just try to keep the right perspective and don't allow yourself to be dragged down into a pity party. Instead, focus on the progress you've made and be grateful that you have a relatively simple solution to help you live a normal, well-functioning and fulfilling life.
I think about this occasionally. I was finally diagnosed 5 years ago in my 40's. I look at my high school reports from ~30 years ago in the UK and think how much better I could have done if my lack of focus, understanding, and confusion had been recognized for what it was then, rather than being put down as either ineptitude or laziness as my report cards attest to. Alas, the UK has never had the same focus on mental health as the US, and back then it was a "weakness" and it never occured to my parents to send me to someone for evaluation, even if they'd known where to go, and the school certainly didn't have any program or process, other than moving me in to lower streamed classes. I used to get angry about how much better I might have performed at school if adequate understanding had been there, but now I just make sure that my kids won't have to suffer the same pitfalls I had to, and I'm thankful that medical, psychological, and environmental options are available for them, and for me. It's been a while since I've felt the angst I had as a teenager and younger adult, and the clarity I have now makes things a lot easier.
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I relate OP! There’s a lot of grief that comes with a late diagnosis and I think it’s important to feel that grief fully. A lot of that grief for me was due to the stigma that being neurodivergent carries. Once I started to separate my ADHD struggles from my self worth, I became more and more accepting of my symptoms and more “shameless” about accommodating them. It’s a lot easier to not feel broken when you create an environment for yourself that allows you to thrive.
I think about that all the time. During a short stint on anti anxiety meds I just spent the whole time marveling: is this what 'regular' people feel like every day?
Just try to remember the superpower sides of ADHD. There is so much we bring to the table.
Does anyone out there feel like they would have been better off having NOT been diagnosed? I feel like I used to at least have hope about doing/achieving things, now I feel like I’m self-handicapping. I was doing better without the crutch. Also meds don’t work for me anymore, so now I feel defeated whereas I might have taken a more sincere career path had meds not made me able to power through the boredom. ADHD at least keeps you honest about what you are interested in.
Also was diagnosed at 27. Therapy is a route I have considered but haven’t followed through. Glad to hear you’ve had good experiences & lasting benefits from it! Thank you for your kind words A1.
I feel this to my core. I think about this stuff all the time. Now I feel a bit lost.