I’m starting to question if I’m asexual. I’m always excited to be intimate in the beginning of a relationship, but once I get settled in my desire goes to almost zero. Is there such a thing as a reverse demisexual? What’s the difference between being asexual and just having a low libido?

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I’m right there with you. Maybe what turns you on is the prospect of something new? I’ve been in the same relationship for 3.5 years now and feel so bored!

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