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I’m struggling with feelings of inadequacy because of how quick my boss is to point out minor flaws (that aren’t frequent) but never says thank you or points out where I’m excelling.

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So, tell them that. I would anyway, but I’m rather upfront and can lack tack... if personally say— can you help me understand better what I AM doing right? I appreciate constructive feedback, but need to understand what’s right.

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The first to criticize and the last to praise boss. I just had one of those. Usually means they’re an unhappy person or too stressed out. I say call them on it. Have a list of your perceived flaws and your successes and put them on the spot. No reason you should have to feel like that. And when a boss does that to you it can often cause more mistakes from overthinking. Let them know it’s helpful to call out an “area for improvement” but that it’s also helpful when they commend you on a job well done. Both contribute to your growth. Good luck!

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I’d get what you can out of this relationship/role while developing your exit strategy. Either within the agency or outside. They won’t have your back and that’s a dangerous spot with consequences short and long term

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Thanks for the insight! Really helpful - going to try these strategies next week 😊

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you’re not alone!

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If things don’t change after you confront these issues start looking for other work. Find a boss who gives a fuck and can stay cool under pressure. I’ve been there before dude and it sucks, but there are awesome bosses out there. You just have to go through some dickheads to find them 👍

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Do we have the same boss? 🤦🏻‍♂️

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Welcome to advertising.

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Thanks! It’s almost like I’ve developed a touuuuch a Stockholm syndrome. Any sort of small praise and it’s like I won the lottery! Gotta take it where you can get it, right?

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