I’m testing out my new “Pro” status in the real world.

I went to a coffee shop today, ended up chatting with an attractive, interesting, and kind woman who also happened to be single. I asked to exchange numbers but she said she’d just take mine. Stay tuned to see if she texts or if I get ignored!

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I commend you for taking the chance though! But yeah, that's the sad reality. Don't be discouraged, OP!

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Wait wait wait - I got pro status for the anxiety/depression bowl … is that why I can’t get out of my depression hole?!? G*ddamnit.

In a serious note - congrats to talking to people in real life!

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Quick, join the Gratitude/Forgiveness bowl!

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For those following along; no text or call from her, and I stopped by the coffee shop since it’s literally less than a mile from my condo and she wasn’t there.

“Meeting someone organically” is so far equally as fun as dating on the apps…aka, it’s not. Haha

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Meet me at the coffee shop in Park City! :)

Next time, don’t give your number if she doesn’t give you hers. Leave her hanging on the spot.

Trust me, you’ll deflate that over inflated ego.

The economy is inflated, we shouldn’t be inflating egos as well.

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It's not an inflated ego. It's a less awkward way of declining outright. Some of us learned to do this when "No thank you" resulted in insults being lobbed our way. It's better for avoiding conflict.

For anyone following this; she finally texted me and we have a date this Friday. 🤷‍♂️ Who knows how any of this dating stuff works, haha.

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She wasn't really into you. If she was, she would have given you her number. By taking your number she appeased you while preventing you from contacting her.

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Don’t assume that! I’ve had guys get very… aggressive, very quickly - with repeated texts, voice mails, etc. She may have just wanted to gauge your reaction (to make sure you weren’t enraged by her suggestion), and to react on her own schedule.

I’d try to go back, and just do your thing - work remotely, read a book, drink coffee. Enjoy yourself and allow for the opportunity to run into her, engage again.

If you show you’re level-headed and don’t confront her about not contacting you immediately, her interest will increase exponentially.

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