I’m the only woman on an all men team.
This is my very first corporate job out of college. Have limited office experience. My team is super nice, but I think I’m too careful- keep my distance a bit too much. I feel like I need to befriend them and develop a more friendly relationship. I want to be professional though. I also really need to get closer to the partner bc of my visa issue and I think partners are the key people to vouch for you. But I don’t want it to seem weird..

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First two teams I started on were all male. Just gotta work to build rapport. Tbh it's better than an all female team lol.

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I’d ping the partner and ask to get coffee! If he’s anything like the male partners I’ve worked with, he’d be happy to get coffee and chat… or if you don’t feel comfortable doing that, maybe reach out to your counselor and ask for his/her advice.

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Agree with the comment on trying to meet up w folks for coffee - low pressure, and a good way to casually get to know. I also try to jot down relevant personal things to remember. For example if someone is going on vacation to California, I write it down so I remember to ask 'how was your trip to California?' Same things with kids' ages or other things you can relate to. Not in a creepy way... don't overdo it... but just a way to start building rapport.

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I’ve been there. Definitely take time to reach out and talk to each of them. Some you will naturally get along with better - either from working closely or more shared interests. Working remotely can make it more difficult, but it’s not awkward to have a quick call and ask how they are doing, ask about family, if they have advice for you starting out, etc. Now is the time to do that. Good luck!!

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Yes. Conversations usually have some work aspect to them - deadline we are working toward or just a random question I had when looking at an old file. Some people like to talk more than others, so I wouldn’t force it if someone never wants to talk. But I always start out asking how their weekend was or sharing something personal to open up a conversation (story about my cat/kids/anything they might be interested in). I admit it may feel uncomfortable at first if you’re introverted like me, but it’s worth pushing through to make good connections, especially if you like the job otherwise.

This sucks but that’s my everyday.
Literally
All males vs female me in a team
All white males vs an Asian female

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Oh man the age difference too..

Try taking up fantasy football.

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Good idea but personally hv 0 interest and knowledge in football..

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Are you the boss tho

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I am sorry. I was there and it was not fun. Some guys are just very ignorant

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:/ sucks. I remember my first time on an all woman team though! It was awesome

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When we have new hires join our team we try to set up a meeting for the whole team the first day. Brief company background and then just get to know each other. I’d recommend asking the senior about inviting your whole team to a virtual 15-30 minute meeting one day to get to knoweveryone

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