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I'm the only woman on my team, and I'm always being asked to plan the social events for my team (lunches, dinners, happy hour, etc). Is this sexist?

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P2 speaking in generalizations that are largely true is not ___ist if you fully acknowledge that it is a generalization and not representative of the whole.

OP, generally speaking, the men on my previous teams have cared less about team events, putting in less planning effort and grumbling about it the whole time. The women end up jumping in to have better events and stop the men's whining. I'm guessing you aren't the most junior member as a manager so try delegating to some male staff and see how the team responds. This could be sexist but you need to probe a bit more before you'll really know

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Gonna be sexist and just say that sometimes men are oblivious to these things. At my office our girls always plan our parties and get togethers until finally we put our hands up and said the guys need to plan the next event. The next event you're asked to plan, explain to your manager or director that you love planning events, but it's taking time away from you being able to demonstrate your good work on projects and suggest that maybe someone else plan the next project.

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At one point, I was the only man on a team, and I was asked to plan the social events for my team. Was that sexist? Maybe you are just more fun than the rest of the team. Maybe you are the foodie. Or, in my case, maybe you are the alcoholic of the team.

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Are you also the most junior member of the team?

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Maybe, but women are better organized planners than men

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it could be sexist. it could also be that they think you enjoy planning social events not bc you're female but bc you've done it before.

bottom line, if you dont want to do it just say something. then if they say you're the best at it or try to get you to keep doing it press them on the issue-why do you think im the best? maybe its sexist, maybe it isnt. regardless, if you dont want to do it anymore tell them or else they wont know

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@a1 you realize that comment is sexist, right? individuals can be better at something than others but saying a whole group of people bc of one quality (here, their sex) is better at something than others is a sexist comment... 🙋‍♂️

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Woman here- I like doing the planning because I am more creative and fun and probably like. Intros too. If you don't like to do it, speak up but don't blame it on feminism. You have no proof that's what it is.

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Yes. Stop doing it.

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"Office housekeeping"

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@K1 it's sexist to both sexes. Sexism isn't bad just for women

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McK1 - her title is Manager. No way is she the most junior. I've never seen work like this delegated to a manager.

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No analyst 1 I think p2 was referring to Accenture 1 above you

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I'm the only female on my team 90% of the time and I don't plan shit. If you feel uncomfortable saying no just pawn it off on your analyst or do a really awful job a few times and let someone else take over.

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@D6 I've been in that situation on multiple projects.

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Why do people constantly try to peg something as "sexist". Sometimes yes, it's warranted. However, lots of times there are a dozen other more valid reasons why you are chosen to do something for your team

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Plan what you like wine bars mani pedi night soon they will share the planning. Trust me

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They say sexism and racism is like porn- you know it when you see it.

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On some of my teams it's split. There is one guy on one team that always plans. However there are 2 women overall that plan stuff just because they're better at it and more creative then the rest of the team who would be happy at the same pub every event or gathering.

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Have you tried saying no? Also, perhaps they have sensed your subtle dissatisfaction with events they've planned before? My team had a guy who always had something to say about how each social could have been better, so we just made him the planner!

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Lol KPMG2 you clearly don't know what feminism is

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