I’m thinking about adopting a puppy at the end of the year. I am a consultant, but my SO works in the city we live and does not travel. Any experience and if this is feasible. Cont.

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Also consider if you’re going to be with your SO for 15 yrs OR you’re planning on changing careers at some point. If the dog lives its full life, it’s a lot of years for someone to look after it during the week.

I’d almost recommend getting an older dog to start and a puppy when you know you won’t be traveling for 1+ yrs

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OP - just to be clear if you and your SO get a dog, and you don’t live together and your SO will be taking care of the pup, your SO would be getting the dog. Not you.

Don’t expect roommates to take care of the dog. It’s your responsibility and it’s not only unfair to them to get signed up for something that’s not the responsibility, but also can create issues/resentment.

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👆🏼 This exactly. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but please don’t. It’s not fair for the dog or for your SO. If anything, maybe consider persuading your SO to get a dog that you could contribute to financially and enjoy when you are physically available?

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Is it going to be home by itself all day? If so, I would advise against it.

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Wait, your SO has roommates, so do you not live together? Regardless, consider this: outsourcing care to roommates can work if they are ok with it. But this obligates them to adjust their schedule accordingly, so they lose flexibility in their day-to-day. I had a similar situation when I lived with a friend and my brother. My brother adopted a dog (roommate already had one), and quickly started weekly travel. He also had a GF and would regularly disappear on weekends to spend time with her, assuming his dog was ok with me and our other roommate. This created a lot of tension, as we ultimately felt like the expectation was shared responsibility vs. him actually taking on ownership of the dog.

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Adopted a puppy about 2.5yrs ago(puppy mill rescue). The first 3mo was terrible, especially the beginning she needs to be walked every 2-3 hrs(even at night, so I woke up around 3am to let her out everyday) and I come back home during lunch break to walk her too. 2 sessions with trainer every week. Sent her to boot camp ($4k for 4 weeks obedience training) when she’s 1.5yo.

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This. I don’t have firsthand experience but two friends got puppies, and both of them had very similar experiences to the one described here. Lots of nighttime work in the first few months and intense puppy school for potty training and such (which is more efficient than doing it yourself but still a time suck). Different breeds have different needs for exercise/social contact, but all puppies need a ton of hands on work for the first ~6 months.

As everyone’s suggested, definitely get an older dog and do some research on which breeds will work for you. Some like huskies and shepherds need more than others. You also want a dog who is social and will enjoy boarding and doggie daycare. Speaking of which, factor that into your budget as well as a trustworthy dog walker who you can call last minute when needed.

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So, you want to get a puppy but have your SO (whom you do not live with) take care of it? Hard pass.

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Looking for advice as I would not get a puppy if it’s the wrong thing to do. I don’t live with my SO but he lives nearby and will co-raise the puppy

If you live with your boyfriend, he can take care of the dog. That is what we do and it has always worked well. Roommates I can’t speak to though

We got the puppy when we were both still at home and I started traveling shortly after. She was always incredibly well behaved so it was easy. He works in an office typically.

I think it largely depends on the breed. My dog naturally sleeps most of the day (we have a pet cam) so she is fine being home alone. Took her some time to work up to that though - from the puppy stage to being an adult dog, their bladder needs time to adjust.

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