i'm tired of hearing that i need to work on my confidence during reviews. you like my work, you like my presentations. just let me hate myself in peace.

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Eh. I had a junior who smacked of insecurity. I wanted them to (eventually) present to client, but I simply couldn’t. I wanted their ideas to clean up in shoot-outs. Rarely happened. Sadly it’s not always just about the work. Presentation is a massive part of being a creative, even moreso for a copywriter. Better to figure it out early.

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A good creative idea is subjective. Confidence and polish are absolutely essential to selling it through. And don’t kid yourself, it has to be sold. But you can find your own way to communicate confidence. Logic based, emotionally based, visually based, presentation style. Etc.
You obviously think your ideas are good. Just think about how you can get others to agree and still be true to yourself.

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Love yourself first. It's a hard thing to do when you might look at yourself and see nothing. But myself includes not only my strengths but all my stupidities, failures, mistakes. Everyday I make them. But all of those are a part of me. They make me different from everyone else. And I can and need to love that part of me as well. If I don't then who will. Each and every person includes multiple selves that manifest in different ways. But the best way to love myself is to then go and speak myself. Those presentations and ideas you are proud of, they came from you. You made that. Love yourself for it. Having more confidence is a product of rooting your identity in your inner self instead of having an identity rooted in circumstances outside of yourself. You career,your friends, your finances, your looks...these are all exterior situations that are not you. I hope you can look in the mirror everyday and start to love every part of yourself,from the good parts to the bad parts.

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This is a really interesting glimpse into current young people. They are nervous & insecure and it shows, but at the same time confident and defiant in telling people they are “over” that criticism of them, and happy with how they are. That the environment should change so they feel more comfortable.

Knowing you have problems, but feeling offended (or attacked?) when someone points them out, even in a constructive way—and walking away thinking you should just be allowed to be yourself...that bosses and work should change.

It sounds like confidence. But its the opposite. Right? Im so confused.

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Very true observation. I taught for a few years and this was a recurring theme maybe it’s not applicable to the OP but it is well-documented trend in what I presume is their age-demo, (based on title).

Hate yourself all you want. You can’t sell work to clients if you don’t sound confident about it. I’m guessing that’s what this is about

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☝️ This.

I can not agree with you enough! I get that feedback all the time and I am so over it!

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can't help but feel it's a little gendered too. and on top of everything... honestly... doing good work and not being "confident" enough for their liking is leaps and bounds better than doing cruddy work and masking it with confidence. our priorities as a culture are messed up.

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Don’t hate yourself. I did it for a long time and it just never paid off.

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😭😭😭 this is so sweet. unfortunately iv already have a dog and i am definitely not planning on kids anytime soon. thanks for your answer though.

I always viciously hate my ideas and work and strive to make them better. But it’s actually made me more confident because no one has ever said anything about my work that I haven’t already thought of, but a million times worse.

So maybe embrace and harness the self-hatred a bit more

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that's a great twist to something negative. i'll keep it in my pocket moving forward. thank you.

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