Im turning 28 and havent had any dating luck with guys my age range... im starting to be open to older men ( up to 40). My only worry is the implications long term ( health/ kids/ stamina) what do u guys think?

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I saw a quote once that said “don’t go looking for a man, do the things you love and he will find you.” I don’t know, for what it’s worth it stuck with me. I married a man who was in the right place at the right time in my life and I truly believe it was fate. But he is 10 years older and had kids... he is my everything BUT the drama with the kids and baby mama is no joke... also, I feel like with my friends, the ones who married young are already divorced and the ones who married later are MUCH happier. Hang in there!!

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I’m 25 and your story just made me smile really big. I’ve been beating myself up about not yet finding the one while I see daily engagement posts on social media from peers. I’m glad you found the right one eventually!

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I’m 25 and have found dating older me (~31/32 for me) means they’re actually pretty immature - more immature than I am. Exception is if they’ve had a healthy, long-term relationship before

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Yup. The problem I ran into is also control - I dated a guy 8 years older than me who did not treat me well enough. I realize now (with the help of my therapist) he did a lot of what he did to control me. I find it really interesting that he initiated some “daddy dom” things in bed and would make very weird kinda 50’s house wife demands sometimes (obviously I shut him down).

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Hang in there!! I was with my ex of 6 years until I was 24 (he was 26). Ultimately we broke up since I didn’t see him being a LT partner, lots of value differences. I felt lost for a year and thought I’d never meet anyway. Fast forward, I met my current SO a year later at 25 (he is 34). And I think I’ve found the “one”.

Despite being 9 years older, he treats me as an equal. Challenging me and growing together. Sure I sometimes wish he would be more lenient since I have much less experience in terms of career, life, etc. But I think I’ve learned so much and find it so respectable that he genuinely (and is eager to) learn from me too!

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Listen..you do you! Personally, I just don't go for much older. It might work right now but on the long run...I know I'll get burned out 10-15 years is a big gap. When ill want more kid he won't...when ill want more fun he might not. He will get tired much faster/earlier...want to relax when I want to create and be active. I just find that a big gap might bring more differences in the couple sur to diff mind sets / generation / life objectives at each decade / physical limitations..... And really it does not mean that they are more mature!

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It’s worth a try - maybe date a few older guys and see if they can keep up with you / have similar future expectations. If they have kids or health issues, put a feeler out there to see how you feel about. Why not give it a try!

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