I’m up for promotion to Director and was told last week by HR I will present my case to leadership this week, and I thought no problem. Now I just found out a male colleague was told he got it CONT...

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Focus on getting promoted. Whether he deserves it or not is not your concern.

I understand the frustration, but this is energy you need for your case vs spending it on something you can’t do anything about.

Also, not sure how you found out, but it may not be true either, in which case you’re spinning over nothing. You don’t know what you don’t know with these things.

Good luck!

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You’re 100% correct. I’m just exhausted from constantly fighting. I’m in IT consulting and the only female at SM or above in my practice, so it’s just a non-stop battle.

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And he didn’t have to present. He is the favorite of my male, rather sexist boss. I have other leadership members in my corner that will support but it’s just so exhausting to constantly fight. The best part? I have objectively outperformed him based on our KPIs. I suppose I’m just frustrated and venting. Kind of just want to tell them I’m no longer interested and just take a position elsewhere but know that’s not the right approach.

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I feel like your presentation should be “XX got promoted and I’m objectively outperforming XX. Therefore...” 😂 Not really, but sometimes that’s what I want to say...

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Hahah that’s EXACTLY what I want to do 🤣

Your presentation should be “A real-time example of sexism in the workplace”
*next slide*

“In this presentation I will show you the *several* ways yall had me f***ed up.” *next slide* *launches into in-depth analysis of KPI performance*


JKJK 😂 I would say focus on getting that promotion and THEN bring it up and also look for jobs and leave immediately

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Haha yes absolutely!

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