I'm watching the film "The Disruptors" and just crying (hellooooo emotional regulation issues). But it's so validating and frustrating at the same time. I've had a terrible several months at work, and I am relating so hard to the struggles even of the school kids in this. Like my boss is the teacher throwing me into the hallway because they are tired of me. It's also comforting to see who has excelled at their passion with it, even if I can't quite find mine and feel like I'm failing.

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My heart goes out to you. I can understand what you're experiencing. We're all trying to find that. I heard something encouraging about how people with ADHD tend to be multi-passionate and I felt better about not having it all figured out. I don't know if you've read about that or listened to any podcasts, but I highly recommend it. I found that information extremely encouraging. Also sending a hug!

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Thank you! I've heard the term multi-potentialite, too..I just wish I could finish something I start 😅 at home all of the different interests are fun and have lead me to a lot of wonderful, interesting friendships with people from all walks of life which I'm grateful for. Career-wise I'm in a rut because I want to excel (and have probably put too much energy and identity in into my career trying to prove a point), but I can't imagine tracking and being responsible for more than I am now; I'm constantly in trouble for missing the marks as it is. I think I need to be in something more creative and less account management, but don't know where to start. This role/company expects me to do much more project management than I am used to and frankly, that is not my strength at all. It's like sitting in a room full of people speaking a different language with their hands tied so they can't even gesture what they mean!

Sending love and non judgment. You’re hurting and circling around the hurt right now. You’re more than this hurt and disappointment in yourself. You’re talented. You were hired for a reason.

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Thank you. I need to put this affirmation on a post-it on my mirror!

Sending you a virtual hug. I really understand, but you're not failing. I'm sure your team has so many great things to say about you. Your inadequacies are all in your head. Hoping everything turns around for you.

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Thank you so much for the kind words! I've gotten a lot of negative feedback from more senior people lately, but the people who work along side me most closely are supportive and seem to feel my value add. May just be the wrong office culture for me, but it's so hard to figure out what "right" is when you're like, I should be good enough for this one!

Sending love your way, OP! I am yet to find mine as well and throughout the process I have felt like a failure almost all the time. But then again, we don't have to figure things out right away. Otherwise, life would be so boring.

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And boring is something I definitely cannot claim! Thanks for the kind words. It's so wonderful knowing I'm not alone and in the company of so many wonderful humans.

Never heard about this movie before. Judging by the way you wrote this post, The Distruptors is a great recommendation for me. Take care, OP!

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You have to rent or buy it but I really recommend it. https://disruptorsfilm.com

My only complaint is that it's is mostly focused on childhood experiences and rasing kids with ADHD, particularly boys. There is a small side story about one mother who was diagnosed after her son, and a lot of inspirational dropins from famous ADHD folks like Howie Mandel, Scott Kelly, Ty Pennington, Jillian Michaels, will.i.am, Terry Bradshaw, Steve Madden, etc. Talking about how they've embraced it after what they struggles through as kids.

It's so relatable regardless and I realize a lot of the chip on my shoulder comes from early experiences and being misunderstood or thought to be lazy or an airhead throughout my life. I would love for a deeper dive documentary into adult struggles for us not-yet-famous folks 😉

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