Imposter syndrome is truly the craziest thing. I don’t understand it. Like I consciously know it’s gonna affect me but subconsciously it just doesn’t go away!!

I have regular 1:1s with my team and always ask for feedback and over the last few months have been consistently getting really good feedback from everyone, but I still feel like I’m doing everything wrong and someone’s gonna realize it sooner or later.
This doesn’t make any sense but still happens. I think this is just a vent :(

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I am constantly worrying that someone is going to find out that I am not doing enough or that I don't understand the tech well enough. This happens when I am talking to very technical folk at work. I know I am good at my job but I just can't shake this feeling.

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I love all this. It really is a matter of retraining the brain. Those things DO work. Also, I've found on a deeper level sometimes this kind of thing is kid (childhood) stuff, and a therapist and some journaling can help you get to the heart of it. Keep up that breath and loving messages/thoughts.

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I suffer from imposter syndrome as well and I can empathize the anxiety it induces. Lately I have started taking a stock of decisions or projects that could not have made it to the finish line if it wasn’t for me. That helps me build some sense of security. However I am always prepared that we are all disposable unless we run our own business.

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Oh my god, I get this so hard. I've had such a good job for a long time and I'm really good at it. Sometimes I am just in denial that I'm capable of doing something like that, or I feel like something is going to crash at any moment if I get confident. You are a person, in your own self of self, that is good at things. People will also give you bad feedback someday and you'll need to improve on things. It doesn't change that you're good at it.

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I always have this nagging feeling when someone give me a compliment, “Oh no, they are going to expect you to outdo yourself in this situation, and then you might not be able to do it, and they’ll be so disappointed, and everything will crash and burn...”

Don’t know how to fix it. Tried the meditation and whatnots, still have the worries

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Imposter syndrome runs deep and takes deliberate actions to retrain our brains. To help I wrote a book about this called “Find Your Fierce: Interrupt Imposter Syndrome and Own Your Success” (by Teresa Sande). I did nearly 100 interviews with top people who experienced it and I’ve coached leaders in corporate America for over 20 years. I share why you’re experiencing it, help you explore where it’s coming from, ways to interrupt it when it happens, and some deeper exercises to set you up for success in the future. Check it out. Happy to help if I can! www.teresasande.com

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