In a long-term relationship. Recently fell head over heels for a girl I recently met. Think it’s mutual but I’d be remis if I didn’t find out. My GF is Wife Material; part of me is infatuated (cont).

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Think about how you’d feel if your girl friend was in this situation and wanted to start seeing a new guy while still with you. How would that make you feel? The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

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Definitely find ways to communicate how you feel. Have you said to her that you feel unappreciated?

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You are touching on this already, but the fact is that you wouldn’t be having these feelings wanting to try out something with someone else if you were completely happy and satisfied in your current relationship. Since you think current GF is who you want to marry, you need to work on that relationship and do not go near this infatuation situation. When you are truly happy in your relationship, you will meet other people and notice their attractiveness (we don’t lose our senses when we get married!) but you won’t feel like you are missing out on anything or anyone.

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Try not to see the new girl for a bit, get her out of your system so to speak, and see how you feel with some distance. Helps to think a little more clearly? Worked for me once

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For want of a better analogy, it’s like a kid getting bored with a favorite toy. I’m not going to throw away an amazing relationship with an amazing woman, but I can’t shake this feeling...I’d be quite appreciative is someone were to put my sanity into check. Morally I know the correct answer; however, I find myself quite conflicted.

A creepy actor famously said “the heart wants what it wants,” but I find myself at a significant crossroad.

man I know you qualified this with "want of a better analogy" but it might help to not compare your girlfriend to a literal object 😬

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Thanks for the insight! I’m not going to do anything rash, but sometimes I don’t feel appreciated enough. Advice on changing that?

COMMUNICATION. My fiancé (then boyfriend) felt unappreciated 2 years into our relationship. He brought it up, and I had us take the love languages quiz. Turns out I had been thanking him in a way that was incompatible with what he actually preferred. I adjusted and our relationship is way better for it. Of course don’t bring it up in an accusatory way, just say you’re feeling unappreciated.

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