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I don’t think this is an example of mansplaining. I think it’s just an age thing, and usually I feel like the older people are making fun of themselves a bit too. I wouldn’t take it personally.
On the flip side I’m in my mid-30s and often ask this type of thing to juniors in their 20s. A) to make fun of myself but mostly B) because I genuinely don’t know what they know and I don’t want them to feel they have to pretend they get my reference because I outrank them. But I can see that is probably annoying on the other side and I should probably try to stop doing this.
I hate when people say things like that. I am in my late 20s and gen x’s/baby boomers say that we can’t remember a world without internet. Not every millennial came from a family that could afford to have a computer and an AOL subscription.
AAM1 - I agree that it was a faux pas given the age (I’m also mid thirties - 35 - and grew up going to blockbuster), but I think the fax pas is an age thing and not because she is a woman. I’d respond with “hell yeah I know blockbuster, but thanks for thinking I’m 15 years younger.” Just me, but I wouldn’t get offended or consider it a gender issue.
file it under: Things Men Explain to Me / Mansplaining
VP1 — beg to differ. That would be the case if it was an AAE/Jr CW/AD but since it’s an executive producer and someone with at least we’ll over 6-10+ years of experience, comes off as a bit of a faux-pas.
What VP1 said on both occasions. This is not even remotely mansplaining. As someone who turned 40 three days ago but looks younger I get similar things sometimes from people and I've never seen it done maliciously or to offend but I do understand where OP is coming from / how it can be annoying. I actually have started to lose track myself of when certain technology showed up on the market or what year a famous business ceased operations and have had to check with people younger than me if it's before/after "their" timee 'cause the math in the moment is too complicated. Like the iPhone came out in 2008 but feels like it's been around for 100 years LOL
I’m a woman in her late 40s. I do sometimes ask if my references are relevant, but it’s not meant to imply that my younger colleagues are immature—its genuinely meant to ensure that I don’t sound like an outdated “cool mom.” Here’s an example — I used to reference Heathers and no one knew what I was talking about. So now I refer to Mean Girls and I’m understood.
How have you dealt with this? Any fun snappy comebacks I can use?
It’s not meant to be condensing. It’s meant to pressure check before someone embarrasses themselves by assuming. Some of our colleagues may not now, so it’s not wrong to ask rather than assume.
Women have and have had a lot to be offended about - someone asking if BB is before your time is not one of the things that should offend you
A client asked me the exact same question yesterday also, but I didn’t have a producer on the call. Weird coincidence!
Im late 20s and I get this all the time. Definitely age based, usually ends in “but you’re not like other millennials!” Meh. I get it, it immediately drops you to feeling like a jr jr, even if it’s benign or meant as a weird compliment