In a serious relationship with someone that is non-binary (uses they/them pronouns). I think my team and client are noticing that I always say their name instead of saying pronouns or bf/gf. One team

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I think how much you explain is up to your discretion. Ultimately, if you’re going to be in a long-term relationship with this person, you’re always going to have to explain to some degree because it’s a foreign or complex concept for some. Whether or not you feel like you’re obligated to educate others on the topic, or how extensive you explain things, is completely dependent on your choice, attitude, and/or perspective on that. I can’t tell if you feel like it’s a burden to go through it, but the upside is that it sounds like your team has good intentions in wanting to learn more about it!

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Member noticed and asked if I was saying that because I’m gay. I’m involved with a bunch of Lgbt organizations so the fact that I’m queer is not unknown. I responded saying no it’s because my SO is non-binary but then had to go through a whole explanation of what that means. It’s fine to explain occasionally but I just don’t want that to be a conversation I have to have with every person. I’m honestly not sure if there is anything else I can do though. My SO says to just explain but they work at an LGBT nonprofit and have taken that on. I’m just not sure I know how to deal with this with new teams

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As a NB person, I’d say, if the least of your problems is explaining your partners identity rather than being misgendered routinely by your team members and clients (after you tell them and explain your gender identity) and you have to walk off site to use a neutral restroom...then it’s the least you can do..I promise you I’m not saying this in a snarky voice. I’m just saying, you have to deal with your privilege and when you’re in this relationship you’re going to consistently deal with a degree of the issues we go through daily

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This is still very new territory even within the lgbtq community. Just have to embrace the fact that people are willing to learn about it because it’s just so underexplored.

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Hopefully one day next generation will not need to explain such things. Education takes time I guess. I also have to pick a gender because I know too few people are educated enough to understand “they” pronoun.

OP, going off topic a little but can you elaborate on your experience dating someone non-binary? My understanding of the topic doesn’t go beyond a few google searches.

I dated a non-binary person for two years and called them my partner. Never had much of an issue with that.

I am in a seemingly married traditional hereto (m/f) relationship but I’m bi and we’re poly. I still use “partner” and “they” to disrupt the norm and signal allyship

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