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all my life, I have been referred to as coachable, a team player, kind, etc. My current manager, also a woman, described me as disrespectful because I missed a couple things, unintentionally, on the administrative end (which frankly, made her life easier bc I did work that she didn't have to do). How do I address this? It scares me. I am worried this will spread as my reputation, and we already have a bit of a tense relationship bc she often jumps to assumptions that are inaccurate 😓

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It feels like she thinks I'm out to get her, when I make mistakes it's not because I'm trying to make her life harder!

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Maybe schedule a 15/20 min meeting with her to outline the full breadth of your responsibilities. Then follow up the meeting with an email with the minutes. No need to even mention her slight (unless you want to). You can just tell her that you’d like a clear understanding of her expectations for your role. Moving forward, I would maintain a kind disposition but definitely keep a wall up just in case. Good luck!!

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Thank you - I have my review tomorrow and my real "manager" - the person who does my reviews/career progression - and he understands the situation I'm in and received this feedback this morning and was kind enough to give me a heads up so that I could prepare.

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And be wary if she is too friendly or says she is out for your best interest or “wants you to develop” - trust me, I’ve seen this with my friend, and to a lesser degree, this has happened to me as well.

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Ugh. She's been really short with me and the meeting has gotten pushed so many times. I feel like I'm giving myself an ulcer with stress and it's not good for my brain 😓 I hate when people don't like me and hate more when they're outwardly rude to me because of their dislike. I don't know what to do. My manager supports me but I feel like I'm in a lose lose lose and I don't know how to move forward.

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