In love with someone who I'm pretty sure doesn't feel the same way. Its affecting me more than I realize.

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Ouch, that's painful. In the same boat as you. Heart feels like it took a beating. It's important to respect the other person's feelings. What I've been doing is, telling myself that I deserve someone who would reciprocate the feelings I have for them. By acknowledging my own value and worthiness, it's easier to accept that I need to let them go and find someone who will return my love. Also understand, love is mutual and takes time to get there. Limerence and infatuation feels like intense love, but it's not real. It's romanticizing the idea of love and there are plenty of red flags you missed if you really think about it.

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I’m sorry. I’ve been there and it sucks. Is it a matter of “time” for the other person, or you love the person but not together?

Is this someone you’re seeing or just crushing on?

Ugh I’m sorry. How do you know they don’t feel the same? Is it just a feeling or how they are treating you?

My advice would be to put it out there and to really ask them how they feel. Tell them you really like them, are in, want to give this a real shot. And say you worry they don’t feel the same but want to know. You need to be ready to walk away in that convo if it doesn’t go the way you want. If they insist they like you, want to take it slow, need time but aren’t playing around then give them the time. But if not, walk away. It will feel good to stand up for yourself. Ultimately you should be w someone who knows what they have when they have you.

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