🐠 in LTR, question for you. In this time and age where everyone is ambitious and want to reach new heights, how did you balance your personal desires with the needs of a relationship ?

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My SO is also in consulting. The time requirements can put a lot of stress in the relationship. We make sure to FaceTime almost every day when we are not together and don’t put a lot of emphasis on communication throughout the work day. Make it a point to free up your weekends from unnecessary hours that can be put in during the week and focus on each other then. Trust and communication are the big ones here. And if you feel pushed to the wayside or like you’re neglecting your SO at all be open and ask questions and say how you feel. Getting it off your chest will make it easier for both of you to address the situation and grow together.

For the ambitious part: sometimes it helps to have an SO to push you and cheer you in as you accept more stretch roles and work more hours. Even if you have to work on the weekends do it at home where you can still interact with your SO.

Everything is a choice. You don’t HAVE to work late, you choose to. So choose each other first and then work second.

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Honestly, I just haven’t found it that hard to have a life outside of consulting. You have to prioritize, and when you are building a relationship that is the main, time consuming thing outside of work, but there is enough time for that. If both people are independent and confident, they will understand there are times where work takes a toll but to be healthy it can’t be all the time.

I think it can be a challenge when it comes to planning for kids, but plenty of people do it with a lot of help. You have to value your life outside of work with or without a partner and uuu need to make enough Time for it.

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There will be times for both of you when you need to prioritize work, and times when you need to prioritize the relationship. Be honest and upfront with each other about you needs. If your partner needs you to prioritize the relationship and you’re confident that you want to be with them for the long haul, respect that. Our POV is that the relationship always comes first, but we respect each other’s drive and would only ask the other to sacrifice something career wise if it was really necessary. At the end of the day, a job is just a job, it’s the people in your life that matter most.

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Have you ever been in a junction where you had to choose one over the other and felt disheartened at the thought, but also you didn’t want to give up on the relationship ? I think theres very little probability of finding someone who wants the same things in life at the same time as you do

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