In my 8th month of pregnancy now and have been so overwhelmed by the busy season. Seems like other teams member don’t really give a damn about I’m being pregnant now and still expect me to perform as before. Been so stressed out and not getting enough sleep to a point that I start to worry about my baby. Help😭

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Your 8months pregnant - reach out to someone from HR and have it known that you can’t work past a certain time. I noticed it’s those that never say anything get treated horribly meanwhile those that speak up for themselves never drown.

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If I was in your situation I would get a doctors note limiting my work to 40 hrs only and speak to HR. And then trick to 40 hrs only. If you need to work even less, then that's what the docs note should say. Its ridiculous expecting so heavily pregnant women to work crazy hrs.

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40 hrs is not reduced. 40 hrs is full time.

Also - because we are working remote and people don’t have the constant visual reminder of how pregnant you are - I bet it slips their mind. They are focused on deadlines and sometimes forget / under focus on the people parts. Remind your bosses, in a professional manner - given the late stage of your pregnancy you need to shut down by a certain time each night - and you’ll let them know late afternoon current status of your assignments so they can move stuff around as necessary. They are making the “work” but you can manage yourself - so speak up. Went thru 2 pregnancies during busy season - it can be managed

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I’ve never been pregnant, but my manager was pretty straight forward with how she was feeling. It’s hard to understand what you’re going through if you don’t speak up. I’m sure they’ll be understanding of your situation when you bring up your concerns :) not easy to do I’m sure. I think you should put your health first though.

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You need to speak up, some women handle pregnancy very well and are still super performers in their 8th and 9th month. They won’t know unless you tell them that this is how you feel, that you need to slow down a bit for the sake of your and baby’s health and that you are willing to work out the plan and set the expectations for the busy season. I don’t think that they don’t necessarily care, but they aren’t aware of what you are going through

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Yeah people don’t really care.
You have to outright say, I need your support to succeed in my personal life as well as my professional life.
Or go on a flex schedule if need!

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As someone that has been there I think you need to first be very upfront about your needs. While your team should be more understanding, you need to be your own advocate. When I was pregnant I had a strict 10pm cut off during busy season and while it was hard to leave the team still working, sleep is very important when you are pregnant. As others have said everyone’s pregnancy can be very different so you set what boundaries make sense for your health and pregnancy. If you are having complications or other issues and need to cut back below 40 hours then I would discuss that with your team and getting a doctors note would be very easy to do. Good luck and remember that you have to let people know your health needs and please don’t feel bad about it.

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I agree with Tax Partner 1. I’m on baby #4 now and have thankfully always been able to keep full workload during pregnancy. That said, in this virtual environment, no one can see me waddling around the office so everyone forgets I’m expecting. While not impactful to me, if it is for you absolutely speak up. Your teams are humans and should care about you! You CAN be a great employee who sets limits in order to achieve a life goal of healthy baby. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

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That’s brutal. The expectation is to perform no matter what. I have a kid and I was stuck in pcaob inspection and my manager made me work till 1-2 am and barely allowed me to take a break.

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When people are so busy no one really has time to care. No one would know if you don’t speak up. If you need a reduced work schedule, definitely chat with your partner and HR.

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Reach out to your manager/senior manager or partner. I understand you cannot work as much as before, but other people may not have capacity to pick up that work thus they expect you to do what you did before. Your leadership should add more ppl to the engagement if needed.

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I gave birth straight after busy season. I was huge, throwing up (I had HG) and I was still traveling during busy season (both by airplane and train) and putting in crazy crazy hours. You need to speak up - I personally did that to myself and it wasn’t until I couldn’t take it any more and spoke up that things started changing. A lot of people in the profession have not personally experienced pregnancy and therefore don’t understand the strain it puts on you, and also the worries you face (especially if it’s your first). Be upfront; everyone will be understanding and they’re also likely very happy and excited for you.

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If you don't tell people what it is like being pregnant and what your limitations are... they would never know. Educate them!

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Focus on your health and the baby’s wellbeing. Speak up to the management and remember this is just a job, you and your family should always come first.

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Can you go on leave?

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