In my early 30s and I’ve never been in a relationship. I don’t want to get ahead of myself but I met a guy recently and think it might be headed there. Idk what I’m doing and I’m freaking out. Like how do you have a bf? What do you do? I’m stressed with trying to be myself without putting my foot in my mouth 😂. It’s exciting but I don’t want to move too fast. Thankfully I’ll be busy the next few weeks to give space but I find myself wanting to cancel plans to spend time with him... I’m sprung 😬

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I read a ton of blogs and relationship books in my first relationship as an adult. Don’t stress yourself out, be a good communicator and go slow if you need to. Everyone is at their own pace and if it’s the right guy he’ll understand and make you feel comfortable.

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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I think this is gonna speed up my search for a new therapist so I can talk to someone objectively and learn how to communicate my needs.

I don’t think there is any one way to be in a relationship. I’ve had 3 and they’ve been vastly different from each other. Just make sure you’re communicating openly & honestly, you are being yourself, and you’re happy. That’s all that really matters!

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