In your opinion, what's the ideal age or range to get married. List your age and gender as well unless you want to keep it private. (Serious replies please)

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Ideal age = when you're ready and found the one

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As a married man, never. Not worth it these days.

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Ideal? Not sure about that. My advice though is don't overthink it. I know people who've done it at all ages and stages, from just out of high school to much later in life. The key is that you're both committed to making it work. Once you're both old enough to say to each other that you'll stuck it out no matter what and really mean that and then follow through, you can make it work with almost anyone. 39 Male, married. BTW - it's been hard and I've wanted to quit a lot. She kept me going by not giving up. I'm grateful.

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I urge you -don't live your life on a schedule - at x age I should be doing y thing - it will lead you to make decisions for the wrong decisions, decisions you will come to regret.

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Now in my 30s, I don't even feel like the same person I was at 25. I can only imagine what impact that would have had on a marriage. I feel like people are more self aware and settled into their personalities in their 30s.

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24 year old female here - I want to be married by 26-28

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Now 35, got married at 32, found out it's going to be difficult for my to conceive :( and that it would've been a lot easier for me about a decade ago

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30s is ideal. Got married at 25, don't recommend it, way too young to make that kind of commitment...

35 male

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30-35. Male, early 20's. Love kids but am worried about sacrificing my career growth and community leadership for family so early.

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32 - 35 as a female

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Married by 30, wish I did it at 27....u get to enjoy being married for a few years before u start feeling the pressure of having a kid

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Mid to late 20s. Male about to get married in his mid 20s

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42 Male. Got married at 34, kids at 38 and wished it all happened much sooner career be damned.

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Statistically as a college graduate, as a male, you want to be over 25 and 27-28 is where the risk of divorce reduces further

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Female (36) - Engaged at 21 - three kids in 5 years from 24-29. Divorced now - wish I had waited until I had my career under way and knew myself better (maybe 29-30) that said - many of my friends now waited to marry and now are struggling having children. Where mine are in fun stage and settled.

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30+ as a dude

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^ mid 30s male who got married at 27

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If I could go back I would've got married by 22 and had kids by 24 - to each his own though!

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P1, that sucks, but not a good reason to get married to the wrong person or at the wrong time IMO

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I should mention I met my husband at 19, it's been 16 years now. I can probably only say 22 having the hindsight of knowing I'd met the one at such a young age

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