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The absolute number 1 reason for people not having children is this: with every child, you are looking at around 100k spent (and sacrifice) in the first 5 years of their life (daycare, preschool, etc. or loss of income) and that’s on the low end. Which will cost a couple around 1 mil in networth by retirement, potentially more. 2 kids is probably a damn near total sacrifice in retirement.

Why does that matter so much? Because the prior generation had safety nets: social security and pensions.

There is absolutely no safety net for the young 30 year old and the time value of money is real. The math just isn’t there for it to make sense to the average young couple today.

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Thanks for sharing! I’d say my reasons are: I just don’t want kids; they are too expensive; and I’m concerned about climate change.

I have 9 niblings (all 9 and under) and that’s about 8 too many for my liking. Christmas is always an absolute nightmare.

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I have ONE and Christmas is a nightmare. Nine?!?

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My husband and I realized we would be trash parents and don't want to ruin a kid or two. We already pay enough in therapy bills

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The little focus is intentional because the goal isn't to study human behavior for education or betterment. They know the behavior they want and that's what you see. So, their time is better spent on manipulating people who are already open to having children into having the. It's sales 101, focus on retaining customers not acquiring new ones.

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