Is 22 too young for a guy to get married? Say he’s financially stable and independent, would you feel comfortable marrying your sister/daughter at that age? Looking for brutally honest answers here

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Yes it’s young AF for both guys and girls

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It is super young. That said, my husband and I got engaged when he was 22 and I was 21 (we got married a year later). The easy part was my criteria was simple at that age because I didn't have enough life experience to overthink my prefeences, it was simply:
- is he practicing
- is he good looking
- is his family nice
- is he ambitious
- do we click?

Now, we are nearly 9+ years going strong alhamdulillah. I do think we are an anomaly though. Looking back or even talking to 22 year olds now, my reaction is "wow 22 is a baby, how did we make this decision back then" Trust your gut, if you find a compatible partner, go for it. So much growth personally and professionally happens in your 20s, so you have to toss preconceived notions of what marriage is like and just understand that your partner is someone who will both evolve independenly and with you over time.

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I humbly disagree with those above. I’d say if you believe you are independent financially and feel ready to get married you should take the step and start finding a suitable match. This does take time and starting now is best. Assuming you want to marry 2 years from now. Marrying early will also prevent you from engaging in haram and inshaAllah help you stay the right path.

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He’a still evolving and will be a different person 5 years from now and want different things. Def too young.

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Just want to say I appreciate the maturity and diversity of thought in this comment thread. All great points and I think it depends in the individuals and situations

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I think being stable and being established are two different things, and the latter takes a bit longer to achieve. If its possible to wait a little longer until they build themselves up then I would. That being said I have seen people get married that young and be totally fine. Its very subjective depending on the couple and their circumstances.

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Yes. You’re often not as mature as you think you are

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I am a father of a 3 year old girl. If a 22 year old guy came to me to marry my daughter, I'd fish slap him, and send him back to school.

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I think earlier is better esp if one wants to marry for the right intentions (find a companion, avoid impermissible relationships/dating) & for the right qualities in the person. This is evidenced by the Hadith of RasulAllah SAW where he advised a person to marry as soon as possible and if they cannot, they should fast. To evaluate if 2 people are truly ready, pre-martial counseling by a Muslim imam/counselor is incredibly important to ensure both people are on the same page.

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Too young

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I have seen many Muslim couples getting married right after college (~22 years old) after securing jobs and are happy.

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Do it my man. Bust a nut. Find peace 😂

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Too young. I married at 26 and still feel at times it was a bit early.

Thanks peeps

I’ve reached late thirties and life has been so cruel that I could not get married. Looking forward to the hereafter now. ✌🏻 #OnMyWayOut

Jumuah Mubarak to you too

No . Needs to be Minimum 25 plus

You’re a fetus at 22. Take it from a 27 year old ;)

PS: From someone who got married and divorced after 22 and before 27 :D Go make some mistakes, build a relationship with god before you meet anyone, get rejected a 100 times in various contexts before you start checking out partners. Rejections force you to learn about yourself like nothing else can, even find god tbh. Unfortunately consistent success in life (which is easy to luck into with a lil privilege at that age) can keep you from discovering your true potential later in life cuz the fear of being perceived as a failure can be a strong source of toxic conditioning in closely knitted immigrant communities.

Yeah I mean I would never make life decisions based on opinions from forums anyway, was just looking for general perception on here

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