Is a responsive email from a partner laced in profanity and all caps acceptable? How do you deal? Does this bowl allow male attorneys in (this post is about a male partner)? Within an hour of said email, I received a phone call and email from our “hr” blaming me for the response and bringing up alleged shortcomings that have never been voiced before (despite receiving feedback in a firm wide attorney meeting discussing each associates’ strengths and weaknesses).

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Never acceptable under any circumstances. It’s not okay to treat people that way.

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This sounds ridiculous and like you should leave the firm. I'm curious what your response was that HR referred to. Did you call the partner out for the profanity?

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No. I sent an email expressing my concerns about covid safety precautions and letting them know I was scared to speak out because I was afraid my work would be higher scrutinized or I would be discussed with other employees or be passed for a raise or bonus. I also discussed my work performance. Another attorney has taken a strong stand on safety precautions and he has been discussed negatively because of it. The response I received was in all caps and with profanity. Then, hr said I shouldnt have sent my email bc it was a cya email and then, he criticized my email communication within the office as cya....this is the first time I have gotten that feedback and I have multiple meetings regarding feedback. I was taught at the first firm I worked at to write emails like it will be read to a jury and cannot be taken out of context (internal or external). I didnt respond to the partner. I am scared of losing my job and its become a hostile work situation. Its the holidays and I have a toddler. I really like the area of law I practice. I like the other attorneys in my practice group. Just do not know how to approach this.

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OP, in my old company I was once accused of sending a CYA email (literally just confirmed a ton of things an AVP had assigned me so I didn’t fuck up). She ran up to my desk and gave me that same email but in person. They were in the mindset that I was ready to go to HR or sue (guilty people feel that way- they were notorious for not paying for overtime) and that my email was some indication of it. After the email and the yelling, they tried to make my life hell until I quit a few weeks later. Best decision I ever made. Don’t take their abuse. What kind of grown man yells in an email? Start your search.

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Leave, now.

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It is not acceptable. And, since your firm is a smaller one, HR is probably in the attorneys pocket. If there is a managing attorney or a female partner that you think might be a better listener-try them. If not, it shows the firm culture and you should find a better, more professional fit. Good luck.

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Thank you all!!

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What if the chain of command ends with the offending partner? Small firm.

Personally, I would high-tail it out of there. I read the explanation of your original email below and see it was re:covid. That makes the partner’s response even more bewildering.

If there’s ever a reason I voluntarily leave this field, it will be because of how lawyers (partner, senior, junior, etc.) treat other lawyers.

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I really like the firm and what I am doing but will consider everything said here.

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