Is anyone else getting a ton of rando, lousy ex-friends reaching out, wanting to reconnect?

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Yes!! One ex who had a longterm gf abroad while dating me (I didn’t know) and is now engaged to her -
- recently reached out saying he dreamt of me and that I deserve the best in the world?!? Ok.

And a toxic ex friend reached out today to say I was in her dreams.

What’s with the dreams?

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Idk dude. Maybe it’s the moon or Mercury is in retrograde?

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Ew no

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Seriously. I must be good at burning bridges, haha. Sorry that toxicity is bubbling up! I hope you leave them on read.

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Yes

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There are a few I am actually responding to via messaging. I say few I mean 1 or 2. (Really only 1 and I had been trying to contact this person over the years as well.) The rest I have just ignored. If I have not talked to you in 10-15 years there is likely a reason why. I am all for connecting with people, but I also know I don’t need to burn myself out or rehash the past just to appease someone who did not feel the need to reach out to me over the past 10-15 years but are likely only doing so now because they’re bored or living in memories. You have to pick and choose where to put your energy, time, care. I choose to put it with people who are in my now.

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Yeah and heard it’s happening to friends also.

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What do you mean by rando and ex-friend? Like people who like you and you don’t like back as much? Or people who have wronged you and are asking for forgiveness?

I have a lot of the first and I usually feel bad my feelings aren’t mutual. I say yes because I recognize they are feeling lonely and it’s an honor to be thought of, but let it slide. 🤷‍♀️ If they insist, I’ll cave. If not, great. More often the latter.

My ex of about a decade ago reached out to me to see how my family was doing. Sweet but super weird.

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