Is anyone here on the opposite spectrum of religiousness with their partner? If so, would you mind sharing how your experience is in your relationship when it come to Islam?

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I’d imagine it becomes an issue once the honeymoon period wears off! Within the same vicinity, yeah that’s workable. Opposite spectrum, might be tricky in the long run.

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Following this thread! Whenever having this convo with others, I feel like I’ve been told I’m ‘judgy’ for not wanting to pursue someone based on their level of religiosity. I always thought this was weird because when choosing a partner it’s the only time I would ‘judge’ (aka decide on whether to go further or not) someone based on their religiosity bc this is someone you are going to live with and build a family with. Obviously people can change and become more/less religious over time, but ‘potential’ is not something I feel comfortable to rely on tbh.

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Religion/faith is a matter solely between an individual and Allah. Each of us are individually accountable for our journey of faith in this world, in the grave, and in the hereafter.

Understandably so, differences and conflicts can arise between people who are religious vs non religious. But it really does get thought provoking to see how rigid and steadfast people can be on this issue.

Religiosity or lack thereof does not define how an individual is at heart, how they treat themselves, their loved ones, friends and acquaintances, and the community at large.

Take that FWIW as we all search for the “perfect partner” in life.

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M 1- I apologize for how direct I was and if you took offense. I sincerely ask for your forgiveness.
Let me attempt to explain what I was trying to get at: first, I fully acknowledge that I’m a mere student of knowledge and not a scholar. At a basic level, I learned that the interpretation of many topics in Islam is not up to each individual to provide an opinion as “our perspective”. Instead it is on us to understand and convey what the message of Islam is, especially in a forum like this where our words live on. Additionally, you shared this as a response to someone asking for guidance and I felt the need to call out an opinion that is in direct conflict to agreed upon scholarly interpretations.
Your response over-simplified many topics: from the state of one’s heart being decoupled from their actions, to considerations needed when making a decision about who to marry, to our accountability in marriage. These are topics that need nuance and have taken scholars lifetimes to be able to answer.
I invite you to research and find any credible scholar/scholars that have the credentials in this topic and engage with them and see what you find.
May Allah guide us all to what is right.

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It depends on how accepting you can be which Muslims are not with each other.

I’ve seen some very successful marriages between Christian women and fairly practicing muslim men. That’s not just opposite spectrum but different religion altogether.

Nah, I wouldn't even consider someone who isn't the same religion as me. That is a disaster waiting to happen

I agree. Did anyone else watch this season of Love is Blind? That is what it would be like...

Wouldn’t ever consider it, imagine waking up for fajr and your partner is just drooling it up while you pray 🚩🚩🚩

I don’t think that’s true D2… Most people have friends that are more or less religious than them or even of a totally different faith. Friendships are drastically different than a marriage though. So I’m not sure if that’s the best comparison.

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Following! In the same boat!

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