Is going through a “hoe phase” an appropriate response to a break up? On one hand I think it’s good to get out of your head, but on the other hand it might be used to avoid the core issue.

What are you known for amongst your friends outside work?

I have a grandparent who is a toxic narcissist. He is my only living grandparent. I will be inviting all aunts and uncles to our wedding. However, after watching my grandparent make my sister's wedding completely about him and try to get involved, although my sister did not want that, I do not want to invite him. Any advice?

Is it odd that I don't tell my siblings and siblings in-law happy wedding anniversary? Feels like one of those things that is their thing. Or am I wrong here?

Totaled my A4 last night. Likely going to be in the market for something new, shortly. Would like it to be easier to put two kids in.

Q5
Kia Telluride
Genesis GV70
Ford Bronco

Which would you rather: move away from a big city where your family, friends and office is located bc your spouse has a bigger job opportunity elsewhere, or don’t move and it causes major problems...

What's everyone looking for at the moment (1) someone who can help you become a housewife/husband (2) partner in crime (3) travel buddy (4) marriage (5) marriage with kids?

Anyone have a spouse/partner who is a picky eater?

I grew up with two french bodybuilders for parents and enjoy super minimally seasoned, whole, unprocessed foods (yes, we were the weird house for not having goldfish as kids), and I live with my handsome man from a beautiful Mexican family who cook with many flavors but also eat out a LOT.

He is okay about my cooking as it is 90% veggies, but some nights he’s blunt that he’s picky, and I whine about going out. Thoughts?

I really want to move out of my parents place for social reasons etc. I still hangout with friends a lot but it’s just a hassle having to drive a hour or so to kick it with them. So my dilemma is I enjoy saving $ on rent (yes I know can’t have both) but the main reason for me moving back home is so that I can save and buy a house. On the flip side with how expensive houses are right now it’s hard to even buy. I’m in CA btw SoCal. If anyone has any suggestion of places to live for a 26 YO TIA!

I started imagining myself back at the office and then I remembered my kids are home indefinitely. I knew school was a form of childcare but never appreciated how much

My husband and I are both very ready to start a family. For those who have finished their PhD while pregnant or with a young child, do you have any regrets?

I'm so glad to see the changes to accept more women in academia in recent years. I'm hopeful that my own daughter will be able to follow in my footsteps one year.

Can someone share Matrimony Confession bowl link.. My friend told me thats interesting bowl... But i don't want to ask her she will easily recognize me by connecting dots....

How long do you cry after breakup? I cried for one night, and felt weird day after. Now I feel like I am way better, maybe it was because I know it had to happen (even if I was the one who got broken up with) and probably I see that more than hurt of relationship ending

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Is anyone having second thoughts about their current relationship?

Have you ever rekindled an abruptly ended relationship? What areas of alignment are recommended before embarking on this

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Desi friends..any suggestions on easy to pronounce baby boy names?

"You're great, but just a little too much personality to work on this client." Welp... 👋

I live in a mid-size market. The community is not super diverse, but has been attracting more young people of color in recent years. Still, I’m one of two attorneys of color in my 120-attorney office. I’m really unhappy with the overall culture at my firm and I experience a lot of blatant sexism and covert racism. (Continued)

Today is my last day working for the most toxic company and CEO!!! Can’t wait to start my new role later this month! 🎉✌️

You don’t have to sacrifice humanity for exponential growth! People build great companies

Got offered 20% more from a mid-tier to be a pen tester. Only been with Big D for a year and a half and didn’t get mid year promo. Should I take it?

If I tell people I'm a writer, they think all I want to do is entertain people. But if I tell them I'm a reporter, they usually look like I'm about to ambush them with questions. SMH. They're both the SAME THING, people

Financial question: recently got a credit limit increase to $12K per month, although I only average around $850 of a balance on it per month. Is it bad to have a really low utilization %?

Team is out sick 😌😌

Ad Ops people: how do client teams send over their creatives and or tracking requests? Email? Excel form? One long sentence with no punctuation, shouty phone call? Does any other team take ownership?

How often do you analysts go in pitches with your MDs

Which big four is considered the best in the UK?

What do you check for when you go to view your properties in advance?

Hi Fishes,

I have been selected at KPMG India, KPMG Global & Northern Trust - for Credit Risk domain.

I need to choose amongst them. I need to understand, given 1year & 8 month of work experience

- how much KPMG India/Global offers to professionals like me ?

- how is the work pressure & work life balance ?

- Any suggestions which to chose from these 3 ?


They yet to make an offer. Please reply if you can give some suggestions or answer some of my questions.

Hi all, I recently purchased a commercial property at WTC, Noida. As I look to grow my portfolio, I spoke to my consultant to see if I could get better prices. He worked with the sales folks at WTC and said that if multiple buyers come in, he could work out a deal. Wanted to check if anyone is interested? I could potentially get him to set up one-on-ones to help explain the commercial real estate market. Even if this property doesn’t seem interesting, I think an interaction wouldn’t hurt.. contd

Looking for advice on breaking into the L&E litigation field. I’m a rising third-year general litigation associate at a v10 law firm in NYC where I’ve gotten to work on a couple of L&E cases. My job search for L&E roles has been a bit of an uphill battle, because most of the roles require significant L&E experience. Would it be a bad idea to take a non-partner track role in an AmLaw100 firm’s L&E group in order to break into the field? What kinds of jobs would I be marketable for afterwards?

Hello Fishes, I am currently pursuing Master's at Indian statistical Institute, Bangalore. I'm looking for the summer internship opportunities in Data science & Analytics domain. It'd be really helpful if someone can refer me for companies operating in this domain. Accenture Infosys Tata Consultancy EY ZS Associates Bain & Company Barclays Boston Consulting Group PwC Newco Deutsche Bank Wipro Big4 , Investment Banking etc. Hoping for the positive response. Thanks in advance.

I have an offer of C1-Architect stream as Java full stack developer.
If I want to get into management or Technical Manager role after joining Wipro, is that possible or I will need to get into an Architect role only ?

I’m so happy this bowl exists 🥹🫶🏼

He sent me a happy birthday GIF last night. Couldn’t even be bothered to type a message. It made me happy and angry at the same time. I’m not responding.

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

He left 3 weeks ago. He’s still my first thought every morning, and I think about him for hours everyday. Normal? When does it go away?

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

I hate that I still want to hear from him. I just have no idea what I want him to say or what I want to say. I feel like if I get anywhere near him he’ll be able to sense my pain. Are we sure the no contact rule is only 21 days? I feel like I need 21 months.

I just need some Brugal rum, Aventura or Romeo Santos songs on repeat all night…

Anyone with anxious attachment tendencies? Going through a breakup and I keep thinking about how I pushed him away and then am down on myself, replaying memories in my mind. At the end of the day, I think we were a bad match from the beginning and misaligned, but so hard not to beat myself over my anxious attachment during my relationship