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I recommend reading the book « The Culture Map » on the topic, by Erin Meyer. Very insightful!
Glad i could be of use with the reco! I found that it reads really well/easily too. :)
Pro
Meanwhile in Japan you can work with someone for 20 years and not know if they even have a family
Haha I worked in Japan for a year and this is 100% true
Here we go. Another post where an American thinks of Europe as one single country and one culture 🤦🏽♀️
C9, don’t defend us.
Rising Star
Maybe I should be more specific. This is a Germany team. I’m not sure if the French or English would be different.
I grew up in Germany and across the US as a French citizen. I took better to American culture no matter what US state we were in, except one, but that’s a personal attitude based on experience and personality. Now living in Finland and whenever I do language & culture classes or workshops, the one thing I consistently hear from the participants is that small talk sends them running if they’re not already frozen to the ground.
I’m all for adapting to the host, but like with any guest / host situation, the hosts need some training and awareness too. I’m working towards opening up more companies to that concept, in a way that dies not vilify any part but helps bring people together.
From my perspective, I get being efficient at work, but I can be more efficient when I know I have friendly souls around me.
Same thing in Asia. No one cares what you did over the weekend.
Not true for Asia as a whole just Japan and Korea. Hong kongers, philippines, thai, chinese, indians love small talk, although is not at a personal level though but more like the british small talk, weather and stuff like that... more generic just to get the english flowing before talking business. This lasts 1-2 mins
Rising Star
I have a senior manager who small talks 20 minutes in a 30 minute meeting then cuts out 5 minutes early. I'm not even joking.
If I am the organizer or attending the meeting, I generally allow max 5 min for a 30 call for small talk . Looks like your SM is a genius 🤣😂
Rising Star
Why do people care for small talk? You have a set time to solve a problem then move on. Do your job and small talk with your partner/friend/dog at the end of the day.
Rising Star
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If you dislike small talk, please never ever move to the middle east. About 3 hours of small talk over tea and shesha is required before any business can be accomplished in some countries on the Gulf.
Chief
I used to work in Sales in India and it was the same. Most customer would want to shoot the breeze, drink chai go out for a smoke and then we would talk business. Relationships came first - business would just happen on the side.
Chief
Sounds like I need to marry a German
Straight into business - No foreplay required
Depends which culture and country. Germans are straight to the point. French can be blunt, but they still do small talk. In Italy, small talk is an important way to get to know one another; it’s rarely just about the weather or a tv show you’re watching.
The culture here in Germany is one of work hard, play hard. Outside of consulting or work with long hours, people take their "Feierabend" (not easily translated but roughly translates to celebration evenings after work) as a sacred time to relax, spend time with family, go outside etc. Maybe your team simply doesn't want to waste time so that they can spend that time doing the things they value. If you think about it, 5 or 10mins of chitchat per call adds up to easily over an hour each day.
If your problem is that they are rather cold or blunt, give them some time. Germans can of course be very warm, lovely and funny but it takes time for them to get there with people they don't know well or trust.
Also when dealing with different cultures, please don't go with the mindset its my way or the highway. Its all about adaptation, compromise, finding a balance that works for all.
SAP1 - Consulting hours in Germany are pretty brutal during the week.
To stick to the original topic - yeah Germans do not like chit chatting in the way Americans or Brits do. I'm Dutch, was on a German team and was told once "Why are you always blabbing so much - get to the f-ing point" by a German partner.
Chief
Agree w the consulting hours being brutal - that’s why I work for SAP now 😀
As an American I find small talk before meetings very unpleasant. I wish we were more like Europeans and other cultures that get right to the point.
Small talk is super important for better bonding and collaboration . Meeting organizer should allocate sometime for this .
Can you say more^ I’m curious? Do we come off as inauthentic?
Chief
Germans are the king of straight talk. No mincing words, no walking on egg shells, border line non-pc by US standards. Very difficult to fake it in Germany - you will get exposed very quickly. At the same time they value time away from work and never mix the two. If you’re on holiday - you are out. Working past normal hours is also frowned upon. Coming from B4 this was a very pleasant surprise to me. No more Sunday evening scares 😁
Can confirm that Tier 2 strategy and B4 has worse hours than US offices. Moved from US to Germany, and the WLB got worse.
Haha my friend sent me this screenshot. Guess who is the German on this chat
NEIN
Rising Star
I have a French team member who I feel chit-chats just to annoy the Germans!
But I am all for cutting it out. I feel compelled to make small talk to set people at ease. I received feedback from my globally dispersed team that I am too stern and ‘no fun’ 🤓 — so I have had to lighten up, make small talk, and basically use the first 1-2 mins to let people settle in and feel comfortable before diving into the agenda. Each day I hope there is an unusual weather phenomenon happening somewhere as am running out of small talk topics. Sports and most current events don’t resonate the same way across the team so it’s mostly weather and COVID related small talk.
How about food? 😂
Small talk maybe 2-3 mins at the start then I get straight to the point. Usually end meetings 10-15 mins early. I love it. Don’t like when people just drag it on just to use up the allotted time
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I was born & raised in America and I abhor small talk. Unless we’re actually friends, I promise you I don’t care what you did over the weekend and it’s none of your business how I spent mine. Let’s get down to what we’re here for.