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If I were your manager I would send you home.
I’m sure D13 might be crying in his restroom now...
Take the time if you need the time.
Confused by the statement you never thought this day would come though. Dog lifespans are fairly well known.
SA2, I felt that
As someone with two dogs I think about this often and would resort to saying a personal issue came up and I needed to be remote for a few days.
Stay home and take time for yourself. So sorry for your loss.
I would have zero issues with you staying home.
Sorry for your loss OP
You are not being dramatic at all. Stay home. Work isn’t your identity
I am making this comment with my identity revealed just to emphasize how much conviction I have on this topic .
Few years ago, we lost our oldest dog - Boss - to cancer . It was the first time I cried in my adult life .
https://andvijaysays.com/2016/12/03/boss-vijayasankar-31214-1232016/
Few weeks ago we lost the next one - Hobo - who died in his sleep . Again it was the closest I felt to losing a child and of course I cried again for a while - and this time sitting in a plane as my wife messaged me
https://andvijaysays.com/2020/02/21/hobo-vijayasankar-12-31-2009-to-2-21-2020/
Both times I took a little time off work to grieve with my family . Both these boys were raised as our kids . I was sure I couldn’t function effectively if I went to work immediately after they passed .
I know several friends who are in the same boat as me and grieve for a long time . I also know several others who are able to bounce back and objectively understand that they took the best care of the dog and the life span is short anyway . There is no right or wrong about this - all I will say is that you do what’s best for you as we all deal wit it differently .
Self care comes first. If you think you need time to help with this, no better judge than yourself.
Take care. Sending you wishes.
I did after my cat died (don’t judge). It was devastating and and was in no mental place to be effective. Was on a Wednesday so I took the rest of the week. There was nothing critical going on with my projects at the time. (For reference, I’m a director and would allow the same for my staff)
Absolutely take time. Studies show pet bereavement is equal to the grief you experience with people. Take whatever time you need as if it were a person, I would highly support, and if your leader does not, report it. This is for your mental health.
Sorry for your loss. Take time to process it.
Also, I’d rather you take time for a dog than kids. Dogs are wonderful creatures.
No one cares about your 4 year old’s soccer game
I’d have 0 issue if you told me. My dog is a close friend and member of my family.
Then on purely economics, I’ve sent people home for their children being sick countless times, especially if you don’t gave children, you have likely taken far less time for your dog.
Several years ago, my family dog had to be put down at age 16 when I was 24. I drove 3.5 hours with a few hours’ notice to be there with the rest of my family when it happened. He was so special to our family I can’t imagine not having been there with my parents and siblings when it was time. I took the day off, told my boss what I was doing (didn’t ask for permission, but we had a good relationship), and I’m so glad I did.
I drove straight to the vet’s office, the rest of my family was there, he was on the table and SO happy to see me—head up, alert, tail started wagging in a way that shook his whole body. I will always cherish that moment of seeing his excitement, even if it was one of the saddest days of my life.
Absolutely ok to stay at home and take a day or two.
Pets are part of the family. In a different way I have no problem with someone being upset and taking a day off if their pet dies. That said, of course one will value their own children over a stranger's children, but beware of crossing the line of valuing your pet over a stranger's children. Pets are family but they're not equal to human life.
Let’s remember this is a hypothetical scenario put out. In reality, if SC8 were put in that situation, it is possible that it would be scary and people don’t always react logically. Meaning, s/he might have an emotional response and reach for the dog s/he loves over some kid whose parent’s let run in the road. Let’s give him/her some credit. S/he might not be as horrible as s/he sounds.
To the OP
They tell you not to cry.
They tell you that it's just a dog, not a human being.
They tell you that the pain will be over.
They tell you that the animals don't know that they have to die.
They tell you that it's important not to let him suffer.
They tell you that you can have another one.
They tell you it's going to happen to you.
They tell you that there is more pain.
But they don't know how many times you've looked into your dog’s eyes.
They don't know how many times you and your dog have looked into darkness alone.
They don't know how many times your dog was the only one who was by your side.
They don't know how much fear you have
at night when you wake up with your grief.
They don't know how many times your dog slept near you.
They don't know how much you've changed since the dog has become a part of your life.
They don't know how many times you hugged him when he was sick.
They don't know how many times you've acted like you didn't see his hair getting whiter.
They don't know how many times you've talked to your dog, the only one who really hears.
They don't know that it was just your dog who knew you were in pain.
They don't know what it feels like to see your old dog trying to get up to say hello.
They don't know that if things went wrong, the only one who didn't go is your dog.
They don't know that your dog trusts you every moment of his life, even in the last.
They don't know how much your dog loved you and how it is enough for him to be happy, because you loved him.
They don't know that crying for a dog is one of the most noble, significant, true, purest and warmest things you can do.
They don't know the last time you moved him with trouble... making sure it didn’t hurt him.
They don't know what it felt like to pet their face in the last moments of their life....
In Memory of all those who went over the rainbow bridge. You all have a place forever in our hearts 💕
Thank you for posting.
As I read this, after a very long and very shitty day, my dog and I are eating ice cream together, off the same spoon, out of the container. I will be heartbroken when she passes on. And just in case I go first, I have 6 people lined up to take care of her. life is just better with a dog.
It’s not about having so much money. The day I rescued my pup I promised her she would never see the inside of the pound again. Setting aside a few thousand dollars to make sure she has food, insurance, and medical bills taken care of should be something I do anyway!
My friends in the State Department who are in unstable countries and have pets have done something similar should they need to be suddenly evacuated. Instead of a “trust fund” they have people lined up to adopt and cash stashed in their residences to ensure their pets are cared for. And as government workers they’re not making anything close to consulting money!
Dogs (and pets for that matter) are like family. Some things are bigger than work. Work will survive. Taking care of your wellbeing and having time to grieve is important. Take the days off. If you were on my team, I’d tell you to take the time you need. Sorry for your loss.
https://jollypets.com/blogs/your-dogs-happiness-and-health/10-undeniable-reasons-why-dogs-are-family
I flew out on a Sunday to head to a brand new client knowing it could be the last time I see my late dog. Monday morning, my family informs me that she passed away. The biggest regret I have is prioritizing pleasing that partner over being remote. I didn’t ask because this was supposed to be the first day at a new client. However, in hindsight, I still should have asked for someone to backfill for me. Please don’t be me.
So sorry for your loss. Your lost a family member. Take the time you need.