Is it bad that I’m not happy in my relationship because I don’t feel sexually attracted to him? We hit it off and have the best time together but I’m never in the mood to mess around. What do i do?

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Sounds like marriage!

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I've been there. It's not fun but you should probably move to being friends. The good news is that the gay community is full of friends who've dated at one point or another, so there's plenty of precedent.

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Yeah I guess you’re right. It’s just so hard because I don’t want to tell him that’s the reason. It’s messed up and could really hurt someone’s self esteem. What other reasons do I have?

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Sounds like friendship, not a relationship

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How about being honest and having an open relationship?

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We really like each other but I think for this reason the feelings aren’t equal. I don’t want to end this but I feel like I want someone I’m sexually attracted to which makes me feel guilty :( I’m just scared I won’t find someone as good for me as him

Out of curiosity what are your ages?

I’m 22

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