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I mean itās just nail polish right? It doesnāt seem like a big deal to me. Iād be more upset about having to pay for some ridiculous dress or shoes. I bought my bridesmaids their dresses bc I was asking them to be part of my wedding. They have enough expenses to help out with a wedding. Many brides ask for the bridesmaid to wear their hair a certain way. How is this different?
imo anything temporary is fair game. General rule of thumb: Nail polish is easily removed and therefore fair game, but hair dye or hair length is not easily reversible and should not be a requested change. If the bride wants professional hair or makeup, the bride should foot the bill for her bridesmaids. Not sure why in America the bridesmaids have to pay for their own dresses that the bride picks out but oh well, seems to be the tradition.
That being said itās a collaborative effort. As the bride, remember these are your friends and you should be considerate of their thoughts as well as their budget. As bridesmaids, be considerate of the brideās wishes. š
Agree with this! My fiancĆ© is best man at a wedding and is being told by the groom to shave his beard so he matches the other groomsman (just one!). If it was unkempt Iād understand asking for it to be groomed, but IMO this is absolutely ridiculous! People are crazy when it comes to their weddings.
Iāve seen it. One of my friends didnāt specify exactly but did ask us to wear a light/neutral or pink color. Kinda dumb on both sides to push for it hard, but itās the brides day so easy enough to give her what she wants in this case, imo
This is common. Maybe not āOPI pink color #xyzā but saying ālight pinkā or ādark redā is normal. Source: I have been a bridesmaid too many times
Gold sounds - gross .... so this seems reasonable to me
Iām tan and i think it looks good too!
I had a specific ānail lookā for all of my bridesmaids, but I also paid for a ānail dayā for the entire bridal party. Groomsmen got mani-pediās too!
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Iām a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding and the bride bought us all this gorgeous shade of coral essie nail polish as part of the ābridesmaids proposal boxā (yeah canāt believe those are a thing but I digress) bc she wanted us all to match our nail polish. I didnāt mind because she told us up front and bought us the nail polish.
For my own wedding I didnāt give a fuck about nail polish for bridesmaids. Nobody is looking at their hands for gods sake.
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This doesn't seem crazy to me. It's all about the aesthetics, right? What the pictures from her perfect day will look like. Now if she's making a whole bunch of demands or asking bridesmaids to do things that are particularly out there, I would be concerned.
But all we've heard so far is a request to wear a specific color nail polish and presumably specific dresses, and probably standard hair styles (up/down).
And I say this as someone who is probably going to do a destination wedding and care more about making it easy for people to go.
My sister in law asked us to wear heels no higher than 2.5ā bc some of the groomsmen were short. It was the beginning of a bridezilla experience - some brides are completely nuts.
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It was āniceā of the bride to allow those short men to even be best men š¤£š
Seems reasonable, Iāve even been gifted the shades of nail polish and lipstick the bride wanted the bridal party to wear as part of a bridesmaid proposal/gift which I think is a great way to go about it!
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Reasonable request by the bride. Itās her day.
Itās the brides day - just roll with it.
This is totally fine. Iāve been in several weddings and the brides never specify a nail color but I always ask just in case. If they donāt care, Iāll often coordinate with the other bridesmaids just so the pictures turn out better.
That said, for my wedding we had a range of manicures, shoes, dresses not fitting (pregnant MOH!) and it was all fine with me.
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I donāt know how common that is, and gold wouldnāt bother me, but black would. Iām doing a spring wedding though, so Iām going pastels and bright citrusy pops of color.
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Idk about normal but the wedding I was in the bride demanded this, hair, makeup, shoes everything to be what she wanted.
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Not a big deal or unreasonable - I'm in a wedding later this year, and was planning to ask if she cared. I literally own 2 nail polish shades: ballerina and radiant ballerina (basically, light pink and shimmery light pink), so it wouldn't be anything crazy if it's up to me.
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I think itās wild to request your friends look different than how they want to look. They are your friends, not set dressing.
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D2 and some brides do exactly that and nothing wrong with it. But just asking them to wear a grey dress is still venturing into controlling category. You cant say "light pink nail polish" is bad when there are different shades and finishes of light pink but "grey dress" is okay. I don't own nor do I love the color grey on a dress so that would not be "how I want to look." Some brides dont request any color - one bride let me and my friend wear whatever we wanted. Then I've also been at weddings where they pick the exact color and shade of dress along with nail polish, shoe color, etc.
Bottom line is this is a wedding and there are preferences. You too asked the folks in your wedding to adhere to a dress code just like the bride in this scenario. This is the brides day - if it's not permanent nor too expensive a bride can have her preference.
My nightmare sister in law told my brother she would call off the wedding if I didnāt get my hair done at the salon the morning of the wedding where she and all the other bridesmaids were getting updos. (My hair was shaved up the back of my neck so no updo for me.) I said I would shower and wash my hair at home and then MEET them there at 8:30 (i guess she was going to be there at 7:30?) and that was UNACCEPTABLE. My hair actually became A THING. Sigh. I ended up paying $40 plus tip (13 years ago, in the MidWest) to have someone wash and dry my hair at this āChristianā salon to keep the peace. And yeah, she announced she wanted a divorce the day they got home from their honeymoon but I digress. (13 years and two kids later, they are still married and it is hella toxic but at least I followed orders.)
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That sounds horrible but I'm glad for your brother's sake you kept the peace. Feel sad for the whole family :/
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Girl yes, itās not your dayā wear the nail polish color and move on.
Dang. I'm not even comfortable asking my bridesmaids to wear a specific dress