Is it common to let your bf/gf know who you had a past with if the ex/fling/person-you-dated is someone your bf/gf knows? When in the relationship should you share this information?

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I say bring it up earlier rather than later. Being open and transparent can only help.

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I brought it up very early on so they had an option to decide if they wanted to continue.

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General communication advice follow these 3 tests. 1 if the situation was flipped would you want to know the information. 2 would they want to know the information. Sometimes people just don't want to hear certain info. 3 should they know the information. Sometimes even if neither of you wanna hear it if it has to be said. Say it.

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Communicate it early but don't put a lot of details in unless asked for. Keep the level of detail completely up to your partner.

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Yes. If they find out later, they will probably be hurt you weren’t open to them originally. You don’t want them to find out if there is a point where everyone is hanging out.

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