Is it normal that there is not a lot of talking during lunch/dinner with your team? Like almost awkward silences, lack of topics. Little private talk aside from work related stuff.

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Sounds like they don’t know each other well enough. Can you set up some team events after work? A couple of drinks and they’ll find some common ground.

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Sounds like they don’t want to be there

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My team gets along very well. Helps that we have a few talkers/social 🦋 on the team that bring out some of the more introverted people. usualy neve an awkward silence. I think it comes with time as well. Core team has been working together for a long time and have gotten good a brining new members onto the team and making them feel comfortable.

As A1 mentioned, set up some events where you can all connect on a more personal level then just work. Might help relieve some of the awkwardness if you can talk about things other then the upcoming deliverables

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Could be that they don’t want to be there. Not an easy client environment. I‘ve also seen the opposite: that there is even more of a team spirit if the client is tough

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Leave them alone, they most likely don’t want to be there.

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As team lead I feel like it‘s my job to make sure the team is in a good mood and having fun at work. Reality is that work is not always fun and also I don‘t want to babysit the team. How do you handle such situations? Any advice?

But honestly, are you eating lunch with them and expecting them to entertain you? Start a conversation or eat lunch by yourself.

Yes kinda weird maybe take to activities like bowling or happy hour

Some teams just don’t mesh well, it’s fine. Have you been best friends with all of your colleagues? Probably not. You may just have a group of semi awkward and non-meshing people, there isn’t a ton you can do about that, you can’t change personalities

How often are you all getting together? Maybe better to dial it back

Sounds like they don’t want to be there or know each other. May depend on environment on the project. Try a lunch or one offs with some ice breakers to build relationships. Some people take awhile to open up. Make sure you understand the potential politics between different or same levels on the team.

Tbh I act differently with the SM in the room. Maybe you should set the tone and start talking about non project work or do a team event so people have fun outside the office together

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