Is it ok to discuss age at work? Do you tell people your age if they ask? I’ve had experiences in the past (non tech companies) where older coworkers change their perception of you if they find out you’re much younger than they are...If you have coworkers that ask about your age (especially around birthdays), what’s a good way to avoid telling them your age without coming off as rude?

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“I’m 24 when I’m playing hard and 44 when I’m working hard “

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This is the only right answer

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It's FAR WORSE for the older workers in tech... where ageism against anyone over 35 is widespread.

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I'm 45 and feel valued at a big company but I would say that there would be a lot of ageism from the startup community mostly because they know that can't afford me or someone with my expertise. Once you're over 35 you might be best to look into getting on board with an established company that has lots of resources as isn't afraid to pay you what you're worth.

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I can generally tell within a ballpark how old you are. It’s shouldn’t be an issue.

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So I had a lot of trouble with this until I turned 30, and then who is not going to admit that this birthday is your 30th birthday. I just bit the bullet but it was always a problem, esp when managing people. Of course, the opposite ageism is a problem too.

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Well. It really depends on the age and role. A 22-24 year old “senior” or “VP” who is managing people is going to get some side eye because it’s a little ridiculous to give inflated titles and management to people in their first job out of college. Very few people can effectively manage people and grow their careers when they’ve never had that same experience applied to them.

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As someone who made a career change into tech mid 40s, I can tell you that all my managers at my current role are 10-12 years younger than me now. I try not to make age an issue, but I do think about it. Most of my co-workers (usually in their 1st job out of college) know I am much older than them, and they look to me for advice or insights because of my outside world experience.

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If someone really cares, they can also generally figure it out from LinkedIn profiles, at least in a ballpark range.

I think you make it weirder by not talking about it if it comes up in conversation than if you just state it matter of factly.

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I'm 59. I wish I could say I never think about it, but I know employers do.

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Honestly, age is just an attitude with maybe different levels of back pain.

Ive had mixed experiences when being younger and have always avoided revealing my age to be taken more seriously.
You can answer:
"Oh im pushing 30" "im a mid-aged millennial" "young with an old soul"

I look pretty young so have also been doubted before and dismissed for assumed lack of experience.
Ive also been told I seem older through the way I act and have been vented to about "those millennials" even though Im the same age those ppl.

But agreeing with other comments here that theres definitely more pressure for older folks to blend in with the younger crowd.

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"How old do you think I am?"

That's always been my go to when someone has asked. Historically I've always worked with older people who didn't take me seriously.

People who think age is important haven’t learned much in the years they’ve had.

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